me and my best friend have just turned into lesbians and we have been.....
Question Posted Sunday June 24 2012, 4:21 pm
im 13 years old and me and my best friend have turned into lesbians we have snogged fingered each other (naked) and we have had sex with a plastic cock (together) we get lingerine when we go shopping,but is this normal? should i stop?
Imperfectionist answered Wednesday June 27 2012, 7:26 am: is it normal for two lesbians to have sex? yes.
is it normal to randomly both turn lesbians? that's iffy.
but it is not normal for 13 year olds to be alright having sex and buying lingerie. at least not in my mind. enjoy your childhood. lesbianic childhood or not. doesn't bother me. go play hopscotch outside or something wait a little bit longer before wasting your childhood away [ Imperfectionist's advice column | Ask Imperfectionist A Question ]
gravitytiger answered Wednesday June 27 2012, 4:23 am: I should forewarn you, I am a Christian, so my views an opinions may differ from yours. Also, yours is an opinion question, so my answer will of course be that; an opinion.
First of all, I believe it is incredibly wrong for one to suddenly claim one's self as a homosexual. I am not in support of homosexuality, nor am I against it. But I hate this "Gay fad" that's been spreading around. As if being a homosexual is glamorous and exciting, and a normal thing to experiment with. Let me tell you, it's not. When one feels as though they might be "turning" homosexual, it's usually a result from psychological hurt/trauma, or a need to rebel from one's parent figure(s). The small percent of individuals claiming to be gay who ACTUALLY are gay struggle with their thoughts, actions and their sexualities their entire lives. They don't suddenly have a gay epiphany, for lack of a better term. They don't just change their minds after being previously being straight. And frankly, the people that do this are offensive to the gay people who might've had to hide their sexuality, or suffer for it. The people who've had to fight to be treated fairly. People who use being gay as a risky, rebellious fashion-statement frankly make me sick. And I'm sure people who've been bullied and have suffered their whole lives for their sexualities don't appreciate it either. So, I don't think it is right for you to suddenly claim you're a lesbian. Not that my opinion is absolute. And although I don't know you personally, and I don't know your story, from the way your question sounded, it sounds like you just decided one day that you were gay. And that's offensive to a lot of people.
Now, your age. Thirteen, just turning into a teenager. Let me tell you, now that you're under-going puberty, your hormones are going insane, your body's changing, emotionally you're growing and changing, etc. So it is natural for you to have sexual urges. Because you and your best friend are both under-going puberty, and you two are probably close, she may have just been at the right place at the right time. My female best friend and I admittedly used to look up some pretty disturbing stuff on the Internet because of curiosity and confusion. Though never have we had relations. It's normal for people your age to be curious and to have urges. However, you succumbing to such urges in my view is a mistake.
You buying lingerie at your age is just not right. That's just shocking and honestly, wrong. You're thirteen. You should be focusing on school work, friends, family, and just plain having fun. When I was you're age, I was worrying about the next Pokemon deck coming out. Not buying lingerie with my lesbian lover. That's way too much for you to be worrying about at your age. Dating in general at your age is pretty ridiculous, drama-filled, and is often just a waste of time and pain. But having sex and buying lingerie is meant to be enjoyed when you're an adult, and of course for when you're married.
To sum it up nice and simple, in my personal opinion, buying lingerie at your age is not normal and is sick and yes, you should stop. Your "sexual confusion" and its normality depends on your definition of so. In my view, it isn't every day you come across someone in your situation, having sex with your female friend at your age, but then again it isn't unheard of.
If you decide you need some time to think or you no longer want to continue these actions, you should maybe separate yourself from your friend, or give some space, and just think your actions over. I recommend you focusing on other things, and just have fun with growing up. [ gravitytiger's advice column | Ask gravitytiger A Question ]
oliepath answered Monday June 25 2012, 3:45 am: I don't see why this isn't normal hun. She's your best friend, and you two are having intimacy with each other. The only 'negative' may be that you will gain feeling for each other. But that can't be too bad right?
13 is a bit young for lingerie I think haha but hey who am I to judge,? I had relations with my best girl friend when I was in third grade. Nothing went bad, it was all normal.
So yes, you and your friend are perfectly fine (:
Hugs&rockets--Michelle f/17 [ oliepath's advice column | Ask oliepath A Question ]
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