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If a person wasreally evil to you would you care if they died?
If a person was that was close to you, really evil to you would you care if they died?
My aunt died 3 years ago and I didn't get upset when she died. Am I wrong? She died from some heart problems. My aunt was very evil to the people in our family. She stole money from a lot of them and did drugs with her boyfriend. They had a daughter together and continued to do drugs, just not around her. My grandmother was always in denial about them doing drugs until their daughter got taken away and they admitted it. My aunt also stole money from my grandmothers account somehow forging checks for over a year and she admitted. They used the money for drugs. They also begged for money from my grandma and she'd give them money for food, but they were most likely using it for drugs. My grandmother had to pay their rent every month and feed them, the only reason why my grandmother and most of my family dealt with her is because she had a daughter. My cousin who is my aunt's daughter didn't know that her parents were smoking crack and she Still doesn't know. My aunt used to say very evil things and do evil things. She cared about nothing but drugs and her boyfriend. She used her own daughter to beg for money from family members for food, they even came over our house begging for dinner because they spent all their money on drugs.My aunt was turning my cousin into an evil person just like her and her bad habits was rubbing off on my cousin. She used her own daughter to beg for money from family. My aunt left my grandmother broke every month from stealing and begging for money. Ever since my cousin got taken away and her bigger sister got custody she has had a better life, she goes to a better school and she's a very smart and good girl. My aunt is dead now and my cousin's father has cancer. I just didn't feel bad when my aunt died, but I feel bad for my cousin because she loved her mom and sometimes she still cries about her mom being dead. I also feel bad for my grandmother cause she lost her daughter. But things have been better since she died and I just didn't cry when she died. Am I wrong?
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its ok to have what feelings you have as long as you dont voice it to people who di care about her just pray for her and pray for peace from it
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You're not wrong, but I don't think your aunt was evil. She was a drug addict, and there's a big difference.
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Well, we all feel differently when someone close to us dies. You may not have cried, but did you feel sad at all?
It's easy for people to judge other people, especially for children to judge adults. Children have a rose-tinted vision of adulthood and parenthood, thinking that every adult should be perfect because of their children. It is not like that however.
I doubt your aunt wanted to hurt anyone. She did what she did out of desperation. Desperation caused by a drug habit. When someone takes drugs at such a level, their brain virtually stops functioning as all they can think about is their next fix. The drug controlled her life, and prevented her from becoming a good mother that she could have been.
You must also realise, that she was a mother and a daughter. However bad of a mother or daughter she was (or it looked like), it's never easy to say goodbye to a loved one.
Personally, I can not be happy at anyone dying. For whatever reason, as it is a loss of potential- someone that did great, or someone that could have done great if they sorted their life out.
Although things seem good now, you obviously know that your grandmother and cousin are still grieving.
So it doesn't really make you a bad person for not crying when she died. Like I said, people grieve in different ways. If you did not feel anything, then that was probably because you only saw the bad side of her, and not the little innocent girl she was was, or the mother she could have been. But you can obviously understand that she did play a part in the lives of people you love.
Hope I helped :)
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