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Boyfriend just dumped me
Hi there!
So I have been dating/together with this guy (mike) ever since January. When I met him ,he was crazy obsessed with me. He would text me nonstop. Try and hangout all the time. Beg for me to date him,etc. I wasn't really into that,but I decided to give him a chance because he's a verry nice guy. As we began dating,I started to Act more interested than I did in the beginning. I guess I would be more clingy,expect lots of texts and hangouts. Basically I just craved his attention. As I started doing that,he began to show less interest. Since its summer,we both had to go home(we go to the same university). So we planned to stay together but we were gonna be two hours away for the summer (in the fall we live like a mile away from each other). I guess you could say I expected lots of texts,"I miss yous " and attention. I didn't really get it.. I would tell him tht he needs to show he cares and blah blah. I would complain to him all the time. Especially when I was drunk. He would get super annoyed and tell me to stop bringing it up. One night I went to visit him and I ruined it. I brought it up again. At that point ,he basically told me that was my last straw and that it's over and that we can just be friends. We had a calm talk and he ended it. He cried his eyes out and watched me walk out. We had bought tickets to go on a Disney trip and we said we would still go as "friends". The breakup was exactly one week ago and he has barely texted me at All. He texted me once asking how I am and if we are still going on the trip because he still wants to go with me. The trip is in a few days and im hoping that I make this trip my one and only chance to get back with him. He doesn't know that I'm heartbroken because I fake that I'm having a good time. Help!
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First you need to try to realize your relationship is ended. A lot of times when we fall out of a relationship we think why this? why that? In other words when we break up with someone we always end up saying to ourselves what if....we got back together? While some people do get back with their ex's i would advise you to not. There is a reason behind every break up. THeres a reason why your not with him right now. So maybe try to think that there has to be someone out there better for you than this guy mike. There is someone out there for you i promise. But if your boyfriend dumped you there's a reason why you are not meant to be. Its almost like your both a puzzle pieces but you're not meant to match together. My advice to you is to decline the invitation to disney world and try to figure out what you want. Enjoy life being single and maybe consider moving forward from mike. If you go on that trip i dont think he's going to want to get back together so i think its best to move forward. Take care :)
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Hey,
So firstly its important to understand that going on this trip will not make him want you back.
Absense really does make the heart grow fonder, so time apart could make you guys see things in a different light.
Also, I'd be careful. Which would you rather a) being regarded as a pushover/doormat or b) being regarded as a strong independant woman who wont take any nonsense?
most would say the last one.
By 'still being friends', he's keeping his foor in the door just in case he wants loving in the future. It sounds to me like he's using you, because exes are never really ever just 'friends'.
If I were you, even though the tickets are booked, I'd not go. You need to create barriers somewhere, else his desision to break up will be futher justified.
I was put in a similar situation myself, and I came to realise that it was his loss and so he needed to feel like it. If he doesn't want to be with you and you can't have a good time being 'just friends', whats the point? It wont lead anywhere, or at least it didn't for me.
Obviously it's up to you, but personally I'd say prove your worth more and that your're not a walk over, and walk away.
Good luck :)
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A. Boys enjoy the chase. But when you started showing too much attention to him hence "I would be more clingy" There was no mystery there was no chase left. and clingy is not good.
B. You told him that he needs to show he cares. Not asked him.
C.I quote. " I would complain to him all the time"
That is not good. a bit of saying i would like more texts is cool but all the time. just gets annoying and makes him not want to be with you at all
D. You need to be open with him. he might just be as heart broken as he is. Tell him that you are still hurting but would like to go on the trip.
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