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Addiction to Social Media
I am getting really worried about my mom lately. She has been obsessed with facebook for about a year now, she is on it for about 3-4 hours a day, every week.My dad has to work about 10-13 hours a day, and he has to clean around the house, because my mom is to lazy lately.My dad and my grandparents think that the family relationship is getting demolished. Somtimes my mom will lock herself in her bedroom on a video call with a "friend" named Tony. One time i satyed on the other side of the door and I heard: "this gets easier after a while right?" and "Well, i think i should go before one of gets in trouble." I did a study last weekend to see how long she spent on facebook. She was awake 13.5 hours, and 5 hours of it was on facebook. She has gotten really mean lately, and cusses at: Me, my dad, her mom ( My grandma)My dog,and my friends and their parents. One day she didnt make dinner ( facebook) and I had to make it myself. She didnt get of of facebook until around 11:30. HELP ME!! MY MOM HAS TURNED INTO AN ADDICTED BITCH!!
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Your mom sounds to be unhappy with her life. Not unhappy with you or her family but she is definitely in search of something; perhaps attention she thinks she is not getting else where. In no way shape or form is this your fault or your problem to fix but as the person before me said you really should tell your mom how her actions are affecting you. As a married mother of three I have to say that FB and other outlets can be very tempting and time consuming. Sometimes as a wife and mother you just get so stressed and overwhelmed with the day to day life and get that feeling of "the grass is always greener". At times I must admit I get bored of my relationship with my spouse and I wonder how life would be with another but I always think of my children and their happiness first and remember the good times. From what you have described it does seem as though your mom is interested in someone else. I'm not sure what her relationship is with your dad but it sounds like she doesn't want to hurt you or anyone else and that is why she is so secretive. But, her actions seem very selfish not considering what this is doing to you. On the facebook end of things it is very common for people to get wrapped up especially when they first start. Unfortunately people tend to value a cyber relationship so much they are willing to neglect their real life relationships right there in front of them. It's easy to believe the person on the other end is so wonderful because all they put out on the screen are positive things. You never get the real daily dirt from an online relationship. I can promise you if your mother takes things any farther she will never be happy. Perhaps you can tell her exactly what you think she is up to how her actions are affecting the family and that you need her to put more time into you and the rest of the family. It hard to tell you but she's probably going to get angry about it and act like it's everyone else's problem. That's what people do. However, I do think she will feel guilty enough to change at least somewhat. I hope things work out but believe me you are not alone. Facebook is tearing apart families everyday.
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It is more common than you think, the only thing you can do is try and have a talk with her. Not just yourself though, bring in everyone that it has effected. Intervention if you will. Sometimes it helps, but you may end up having to do something more drastic such as speaking with your father (if the intervention doesn't work) and talk about disconnecting the internet. You'd be surprised though, some people have gone to rehab due to internet addictions, gaming addictions.. Really, any form of addiction. But first, you should speak to your father, and others who have been hurt by this, and try to come with a solution between all of you. It's always painful to see a family break up, especially over something so trivial.
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