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possibly Bi boyfriend?
My boyfriend has a friend that is gay, and they hangout ALL THE TIME. Last time they hung out alone his gay friend took advantage of him being drunk and they pretty much had sex. Well, my boyfriend is STILL friends with this boy. Is he bi, and just not telling me?
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He might be bi, but he might not be. He might not even know for sure. Sexuality is somewhat fluid and sexual preference might change a couple of time during a person's life. Or it may never change at all. If he wants to come out to you, he will. Until then all you can be is supportive.
What I see as a bigger issue is the threat this boy may pose to your relationship. Do you consider your boyfriend's sexual experience cheating? Can you mend the relationship after this encounter? These sorts of question are more relevant to your relationship than your boyfriend's sexuality.
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It is possible but just do the normal thing and ask him! It's a sort of 'awkward' question so your know if he is telling the truth or not. Or you can do something like ask him 'what would you do if I was bi?' and see his reaction. Or do something like show him a picture of a good looking boy and say 'is he good looking?' or something
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There's a good chance that he's at least bi-curious. If his so-called friend really took advantage of him, I don't believe he'd maintain their friendship. It's more likely that the alcohol lowered his inhibitions enough to allowed himself to be seduced into trying something he was curious about. As for him not telling you the truth, he's probably having a hard time admitting it to himself.
You have to decide whether or not you are willing to stay with him while he figures it out.
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One Bi experience does not make you Bi. Most young people will experience gay sex once in their younger years. The fact that his friend took advantage of him when drunk does not mean he consented. Why he is still friends is something you have to ask him. .
Somehow I get the feeling you and he are teenagers. Two things I want to say to you. First there is a reason the drinking age is 21. Your bf has experienced one of them Drinking to the point of getting drunk is not drinking responsibly it is the sign of a problem drinker. While you may have adult looking bodies you have not matured enough to take on some of the things adults are allowed to do such as drinking.
Most teenagers will try different sexual experiences during their teenage years. This is how the identify what their sexual make up truly is. If your bf willing entered into bi sex with his friend it still does not make him bi.
What it does though is put the two of you at risk for many STDs and AIDS even if they used condoms as condoms does not protect against all STDs. If you are in a sexual relationship with him do not have sex with him again until he has been tested. If you have had sex with him since you need to be tested as well for both STDs and AIDS.
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