I have an 18year old bro,I'm a little older than he,so basically my biggest cocern is that he has no clue about what he's going to do with his life,he's not sure whether to carry on studying or getting a job,he's just so lost,I don't know how to help him because to make matters even worse,he's always in a bad mood,so it's really hard to everynoe of us,I mean my family and I to talk to him,thanks!ps( it'd be great to read 18 or 17year old people,thanks in advance!)
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Families? XBrinaX answered Monday April 2 2012, 11:55 am: Him always in a bad mood is going to be a bit tricky. But, my advice is to try and take him out for ice cream, or lunch, or somewhere the two of you can be alone. At this time in his life, like many others, he's confused about what he want's to do. The main thing you can do is to let him know that your always there for him, and support him fully. At that age, which I'm sure you know, is a very hard time, with graduation and all that coming up. So, just take him out somewere, and let him know you'll be there for him always. Hope I helped!
JustJessOx answered Monday April 2 2012, 11:47 am: Hey there I'm 18/f myself.
Okay let me start by saying this is not uncommon. Many teenagers this age have noo idea what they want to do. It's an awkward age at best with all these choices regarding the future and careers etc so its natural it can be very stressful,hence your brothers bad moods.
I myself decided on a year out after finishing school as I wasn't quite sure where I was going. I took the year to look at my life and decide what are my interests what do I think I will be good at etc. I did a lot of research into different college courses and eventually I found what I think will be right for me. I start college in septemeber.
Maybe your brother could do the same?
Take a year to work..decide if its for him or if he would ultimately like to go to college?take the time to do a little research in between. Check out different colleges etc.
try sit down and talk to him. Talk about his interests what he could potentially see himself doing.
way up the pros and cons of working or going to college.
Would he be happy working minimum wage or does he want to strive for more?
Maybe go visit a guidance counselor (as I did) they can be very helpful and do lots of different tests to determine what career would be best for you.
Maybe talk to people in different professions he might be interested in about what their job entails and what its like. He must have some interest!
reassure him that its natural to feel this way.
That's really all the advice I have to offer. I hope it helps in some way! good luck to your brother.
Much <3
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