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Boyfriend troubles :'/
I'm 15 and so is my boyfriend. He and I have been dating for about a month and 2 days now. I love him to pieces <3 But it also bothers me that he wants to hangout almost all the time. I've told him that I'm a cheerleader and he knows that. (im a competitive cheerleader) He gets upset with me when I cant hangout with him. :'/ I really want to spend time with him, but i dont know what to tell him, if im busy again. I dont want to get him getting upset with me. His friend told me one day that if I dont hangout with him, He's gonna break up with me. Can someone please help me.!! (:
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This boy is controlling... that is a big NO-NO! And let's not forget his unwillingness to bend for you. If he *valley girl voice* "loved you to pieces" he wouldn't mind that you were busy with cheerleading and always need to be around, i mean it'd bother him a bit but he'd respect that and wouldn't break up with you over it. But like you said you're 15, you're young and in love. Don't let a guy stop you from doing what makes you happy.
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I don't think you are going to like my answer but you need to hear or read what I am about to say. It is important that you learn about men/boys with this type of personality as if you don't you could be physically hurt in the future.
Anyone who displays this type of desire to totally monopolize your time is someone that has a controlling personality. If he wants to be with you at all times he will also want to tell you who you can see and not see. He may not be doing it now, but later as his personality as a controller matures this is how it goes.
I know you say you love him and I'm sure you do. At your age he is a first love; there will be others before you find your true love and marry. It is in your best interest that you let him leave. Better yet you should tell him you are no longer interested in him and he should find someone else, that you have a life and since he can't except that it is better you stay apart.
Men/boys with this type of personality eventually build to a point that if they cannot control you with words they get physically controlling. This type of controlling usually leads to the women/girl getting beat up and ending up in the emergency room.
Mark this up to a life lesson, a very good life lesson to know who to stay away from and to find someone that will respect you and love you. People with controlling personalities do not love or respect others as others do. They get very jealous of those they think they love and end up hurting them.
Send him on his way befor you get hurt.
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First of hon.. This is a bad sign of a relationship. He needs to understand, that you are not commited to spend every second with him. You have your own life. And your own commitements. Your a cheerleader, and your squad has responsiblities for you.
If you don't stand up for yourself here are some things that might happen:
- You will lose your friendships.
- he will control your every move.
- You won't be able to do anything with out his approval.
My ex best friend got into this situation and it's alot mor violent and dangerous now.
You deserve to do what you want, when you want.
And if he breaks up with you,. because you have your own commitements. then screw em. You deserve someone alot better. and your still very young. Don't let a guy control you!!
:Jasmine*
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