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I want to have sex but I'm insecure and don't want to show my body
I'm 14 years old..me and my noyfriend have been together for two years..we've been REALLY horny lately and we were going to have sex the other day BUT I don't like my body. We talked about it and he made me feel soo loved and he told me he loves my body and he loves me weather we have sex or not. I have been fingering myself alot. How can I start getting comfortable being undressed? Show more skin? Soo I can have sex ..
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I know exactly how you feel yes it will take time to be comfortable in your own skin and what I truthfully did once i.got out the shower I looked at my self in the mirror and I told my self that this is what I have and to be thankful for what I have and I would then spell out in the mirror "i'm fuckin beautiful" I hope that boost your self-estem. I hope I helped. And this other people who answered your questions just kinda told you not to have sex hun don't listen to them its your decision and your life so do what you feel is rite. :)
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First your way to young to be having sex. Your body is still changing and maturing. Your fear of being naked with a boy or showing you body to him is sort of an internal alarm system to protect you from doing something you should not and are not ready to do yet. Listen to what your body is telling you.
We all have these little alarm systems as I refer to them. Even as adults these little alarms will go off. They are there to keep you safe. To keep you from doing something that you know in the back of your mind you should not be doing.
There is something you need to know about teenage boys. Teenage boys do not know the difference between lust and love. Once they hit puberty they become hard wired to have sex. They need sex to work off the sexual energy building up in them from all the hormones produced by entering puberty. They will tell a girl anything she needs to hear to get what they want.
Something else you need to know about teenage boys. When it comes to sex they are the biggest gossips ever. They have to tell someone; for once they have sex they feel they are a man. They tell their best buddy who tells his friend. With today'social; media connections before you get to school in the morning everyone knows you slept with your boyfriend.
You know have a reputation you don't want or need. I may be old but the only thing that has changed since I was your age is the form of communication. Even your girlfriends will gossip if you tell them or they hear about it. You don't have to believe me, you could ask your dad if you want. We may be old or older, though when it comes to teenage sex not much has changed over the years.
My advice is to wait. Hug, kiss, pet if you want but leave the big dirty, as it was called in my day to when you are much older, more mature and fully understand the ramifications of adult sex. Sex is something to be enjoyed. Not something to be done quickly, someplace hidden so as not to be caught be your parents.
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Do you guys do other sexual things besides sex? If so I would just continue that or begin to explore it. Being comfortable in your own skin will take time, if you feel uncomfortable don't have sex. Trust me it is not going to be that amazing the first times. You will probably enjoy the other stuff much more. Don't worry about your body so much. I know when your young it is easy to over analyze everything but you boyfriend loves your body so there is nothing to be self conscious about. That being said I am not trying to tell you how to live your life but please don't have sex unless you are 100% you want to, you are very young.
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