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Maid of honor and flat broke. (Can't afford a dress for the wedding!)
24/f
I'm just curious as to what you guys suggest - I've gotten into kind of a pickle.
My friend is getting married in August, and has asked me to be her Maid of Honor. I'm thrilled, of course, and beyond excited for her, but as my subject suggests, I'm... very broke. I hardly have an income right now, and I'm on my own. I'm working my butt off to finish school (I graduate in May), but I haven't found a new job yet. My parents help me financially when it's necessary, but any extra expense aside from my bills comes out of THEIR pockets.
My friend has asked her bridesmaids to pay for our own dresses, and while they are (just) under $50, that's two weeks of groceries for me...
There's nowhere for me to cut corners, and I'm a bit reluctant to ask my parents for more help. I don't know if I should talk to my friend about the extent of my situation, or...
What do you guys suggest?
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First Off, Congrats maid of honor. Thats always a special job and special feeling for all girls. embrace it. I would suggest to suck it up and ask your parents just for a little help during this hard time, becuase your friend (hopefully) only gets married once. You should enjoy this time, and getting your dress, and the getting it fitted an picking out flower arrangements etc. its shouldnt be a time where you need to deal with stress of a financial situation, you should be happy, ask your parents, as im sure they will totally understand, Goodluck -Istalio
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If your friend has asked you to be her MOH, it means you're a special person in her life. There may be a way that she can split the cost with you. When I got married, my sister was my bridesmaid. We paid for her dress, since she's in university and living on loans.
You should probably also talk to your friend about expectations regarding hair, makeup and shoes. You don't want to sink money into the dress only to find that she wants you to wear matching shoes, pay for an updo and get a manicure. Chances are it will mean more to her to have you there than to have the 'picture-perfect' wedding, but you want to make sure that her expectations aren't going to put you in the poorhouse. The bachelorette party can also be a big money sink, depending on what she wants. If she's happy with a small party or a girls' camping trip, that will be a lot more in line with what you can offer than a lavish weekend in Vegas.
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If your parents help, honestly, ask for help. If it won't be a problem other than your pride, swallow your pride and ask. This isn't asking for a new TV or help with a new car payment or something else which is about you. This is about your friend and the fact that your life situation is so tight you're worried you can't do what you need to do to be able to show up in a nice dress and be her maid of honor.
Asking for help isn't a terrible thing to do. If you don't want to ask your parents consider asking your friends. Do what you need to do, she wants you to be her maid of honor and that's kinda important.
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You are the maid of honor so i imagine she is like your best friend? Talk to her. stop stressing out. A young person living on their own finishing school you are juggling a lot and a dress to that is just crazy. Explain to her your situation. I am sure she will understand and maybe she can pay half and your parents can pay half just explain this is a chance in a life time.
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