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My dad hates me
Hi! I'm michell. My Dad hates me. Recently he has been extremely cold towards me because he thinks I'm rude to him. I wasn't rude to him. He lives my sisters more than he does me and that hurts a lot. I don't know what I could have done wrong. Or why he can't forgive me for it. My relationship with my dad has always been bad. He never liked me and I never liked him. But recently he's been like talking to my sisters an ignoring me. When we go out together he jokes around with them but when I ask him a question he replies me with a single word. I don't know what to do anymore. I thought he will always love me despite my actions. But I am not so sure anymore. He hates me. I don't care about that part but it hurts when he shows his favoritism!
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Have you thought of asking him to go for a cup of coffee at a public place alone with him & you need to talk privately with him? Then you could air your feelings & tell him you want to start fresh & give your father-daughter relationship a chance before its too late.You may both regret it someday if you dont at least try to rectify this situation.Make sure you emphasize you Love him because you obviously do or you wouldnt be here. Good Luck Cheriscope
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I feel you.
One thing you can do is write a letter to him. Tell him how you feel when he jokes around with your sibilings.
Tell him why he shows more love and respect towards your sisters.
Why does he treat you the way he does in general.
I don't think your actions should affect the love of a parents to a child. Forgiveness is the key to everything.
But, try the letter. But you have to to give it to him. Sit with him while he reads it. If he doesn't say anything, walk out and let him think and go try and attempt to talk about your feelings.
I've done this with my father. It helped.
But all people are different. Maybe he'll take it as a bad thing hut im sure he'll most likely take it in to heart and he'll change.
Good luck! I hope you try this.
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I really do not have a good answer for you other than to maybe explain why. You have not said if you are the oldest, youngest or middle child.
I'm going to assume you are the oldest child for many parents, for no good reason, hold things against the oldest child that are not their fault. Many of the oldest children are unplanned for. The are interruptions in a plan that one or both parents may have had for themselves.
Now this of course is not your fault, you did not ask to be born. My father was one of those types of parents. So I know what it is like to be in your shoes. There is nothing you can do to change his view, he is just being a very small and selfish person if this is his reason for treating you this way.
You could try and talk to him and tell him you see and feel his resentment. That you don 't understand why he is this way. It is possible that he feels he is not treating you any different. It may or may not work for you. Just for your knowledge it did not really work for me even after I told him I forgave him even though he did not ask for forgiveness. It may work for you as everyone is different.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to start building your own life. Include your father when you think you should or can. Don't include him if you feel his presents will ruin your event or day.
The problem is his not yours. I Know it hurts, it hurt me. I finally had to decide that to stop hurting I had to cut him from my life. That is up to you to decide. But you are the most important person in your life. He has to decide if he wants to be a part of it.
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