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Is this teacher flirting with me or am I overreacting?
Is this teacher flirting with me or am I overreacting?
My teacher is 27 and Im 18 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing that's important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him because they think hes joking. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me a lot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something. One time he looked up my schedule and took me out of PE class because I was mad at him and someone told him that I didnt like him, he took me out of class just to ask me if I didnt like him and he looked seriously hurt.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Sometimes I just can't tell if hes joking because he knows I have a crush on him or if hes being serious. He has been doing this before I turned 18. Please answer, thanks
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I agree with the advise solidadvice4teens has given you. At the very least this teacher is being inappropriate in his manner with you. The fact that your 18 and legally an adult does not excuse his actions. He is your teacher and in a position of authority over you. This Is by law sexual harassment. The fact that you are his student means he should be terminated from teaching and arrested.
You have done nothing wrong here. The fault and problem her lies squarely with the teacher. The correct thing to do here is to tell your parents. Yes, tell your parents so they, not you can take the proper action. I believe you are still in High School so even though you are 18 this is a matter for your parents to handle.
Your parents should call the police as what is happening to you is a police matter. Again you are not at fault here. By making this a police matter the school system cannot sweep this under the rug as some do. They will have to suspend the teacher immediately from teaching while the police investigate or until there is a trial.
Please understand that you are completely blameless here and what I am suggesting is the right thing, the adult way of handling this. He is being inappropriate with you. How many other students is being inappropriate with? How many other students has he been inappropriate with.
If you are strong enough to do the right thing I can assure you others will then come forward. As we have seen so recently in news reports. If he is doing this with and to you I am sure you are not the first student he has done so with and if you are than he must be stopped before he does so or goes further with other young girls.
Tell your parents tonight. Do the right thing and call the police. Do it for yourself as well as those girls he has yet to harass and the ones who were not strong enough to come forward.
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In this day and age teachers should and most do know not to act in this manner with students be it a joke or not. Obviously you aren't laughing and are finding it creepy and uncomfortable which you should be feeling about it.
I would tell your parents what he has been doing and saying especially when alone and that you feel it's creepy. Ask them what to do about it and have them handle it with the school. Something is not right with this guy and if you are feeling that it's all wrong than it is! Your gut never steers you wrong.
If he tries any of this behavior before your parents can talk to the school tell him "You might think you're playing but this behavior is unwanted, inappropriate and makes me uncomfortable. My parents have contacted the principal." and walk away.
You've done ZERO wrong here but he has. It will not affect you academically or otherwise as he'll know he's crossed a line and can't mess with you. In fact they may transfer you out of class. Don't worry about how they handle him. He needs to learn this isn't right as do some of his colleagues from the sounds of it.
Make sure they know that he's been doing this with you before you turned legal age of majority in your area and if he does it with other girls. If you can find other people he does it too that are equally worried about it than that helps your case.
Basically, tell your parents and let them deal with the proper people for you. As far as a crush goes it's normal and at the time seemed so but you abandoned that once you saw how creepy his behavior was. In fact, nobody ever need know that detail and it's got nothing to do with what he has been doing. Definitely speak up about this to adults you trust.
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