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Best guy friend
Hi I'm 16/f and I work with this guy who is one of my closest friends ever and one of the only people I trust. There's nothing I wouldn't do for him and he knows me better than most people, including my family.
Right well anyway a few days ago I was over his house and we kind of got with each other, which isn't a bad thing because we both we equally into it. As far as I'm concerned, if it never happens again I don't really care and if it does then it was a bit of fun. The only thing that I won't be happy with is if he makes it different between us as friends, cause I know for me it hasn't changed anything. In fact if anything it's made me more comfortable with him.
Anyway, I saw him yesterday and he didn't say a word to me... I've text him a few times and he replies short replies and just let's the convo die. This isn't unlike him normally, and he gets a bit depressed, but I don't know whether I should text him again? I miss not talking to him, we used to talk every day without fail, or am I just overreacting? I saw him this morning and everything was fine in person..
I'm not awkward about what happened at all, and I'm pretty much open to any way this could go in the future (though I'm a bit skeptical about a relationship, and I don't want to lose him as my friend). I'm just worried he'll be awkward about it. He's 19.
Any ideas what I should do? I miss talking to him :(
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Okay, well, he is a guy and guys get really weird when they are unsure of how their friend/latest hookup is feeling about things. He is probably sensing your anxiety. Guys respond to action over communication, so my advice is for the time being, say nothing. Just be. YOu may be sending out vibes without realizing it. You say you are not awkward about what happened at all, but you seem pretty tense and curious about what he is thinking. You may be reading more into it than is there because you are a girl and that is what we do:) I think you will find if you just act normal and don't make a big deal out of it, he will warm up. If you guys are going to get together again, it will happen naturally. If not, then you still have your friend. Text him and ask him to hang out and do something you would typically do, so he will see you are the same girl as you were before and chill. If you ever need to discuss it, it will come up on its own.
Hope it helps
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Don't text him to talk about a relationship. Wait till you can talk in person or if that isn't working, write him a letter. It's more personal than a text. Until you can talk openly about which way you both want to move on this, just continue to treat him as you would normally. Throw in as much humor as possible to lighten things up and get the lines of communication back open. Let him know as much as you enjoyed the get together, that you don't in any way want to jeopardize your friendship. Let him know you can separate the two sides of ya'll's relationship but your scared he might not be able to from the present actions he's giving. You are willing for now to accept nothing but a friendship unless he steps up and makes the initial move toward wanting something more. Keep in mind majority of the time friendships don't remain when romance enters the relationship, however it also depends on each individual person, the honesty and clarity used on both parts, and the maturity levels of both. Anything can be done if you both go into it with an open eye and heart. Don't Lise sight of how you feel and what you believe and things will work out as they should. Good Luck!
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The best thing to do, in my opinion would be to ask him to talk, and sit down with him in person and ask him how he feels about the whole situation, if it made him uncomfortable, or if he wants to be more than friends or what. I don't exactly know what you mean by "got with each other" so i dont know the full extent of the situation but usually that is a mutual decision so it shouldn't end up bad as it may be. Just try not to act awkward at all, ever. Even if he doesn't talk to you, and you usually talk to him first or even sometimes, keep doing that because you don't want to act any different or awkwardly because he can automatically assume that you feel awkward about the situation when maybe he doesn't. Hope i helped somewhat, good luck. Feel free to message me if you need more help <3
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