Member Since: January 15, 2012
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there is this boy im confused about. were teens and we kown eachother for almost 6 years. we were together for 2 years. and 2 and a half years ago he dumped me. and then we were in the complete friend zone for about a year. ever since then there has still been ongoing drama. it didnt get crazy until about a year ago. he starting showing me he likes me like it started with flirting and then physically was showing me. and i guess now were just "doing stuff". this whole time he couldnt decide what he wanted so he would say "hes done" and then be rude to me and call me ugly and go out of his way to upset me and say mean jokes to me and then later come back to me. and it confused me. so i guess i could say we been off and on. i dont know what to even call us because where not officially together but he knows i want that. i told him that over the summer and he said no because he doesnt love me and never did and i kind of dont believe that. at one point i strongly believe and feel that he did love me. im not sure how he feels now beacuse im guessing he lies. and as of two months ago he told me he likes me and that were gonna keep things going. and thats been true he doesnt change his mind anymore. i told him i like him to. hes got me so confused im not sure if i like or love him. but i know its somewhere around there. or i could be in denial or mabye he could be to im not sure. and i feel sometimes that he uses me. he says he doesnt but im not sure what to believe. he tells me sweet things like im his girl, he really really likes me and i hope i know that. i brought these things up to him and then he says he doesnt remember saying those things. that made me feel like im being used or hes lying. he said hes doing neither of those but still. im very confused. im not a sex object. i think the situation is kind of beyond my control. this is the closest i could get to being with him. so i deal with this and not give up trying and the hope i have in me.hes my first boyfriend first love and im the same to him. right now i dont know what does he want from me or what is his problem ? do i not understand him right or is it just me. (link)
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Oh sweetie don't beat yourself up because he's the one confused. Bottom line this is not how you should be treated as a friend or girlfriend. He shows you little to no respect & keeps doing it because he knows you will be there. Sounds like he doesn't know what love is therefore doesn't know how to show it. If your not getting in return what you are giving out then it's not acceptable. If you have to wonder how he feels about you, then it's not acceptable. Wait for someone you deserve. The one who wants to put forth the effort to sweep you off your feet, to make butterflies in your stomach at the mere sight of him or the sound of his voice, the one who makes you feel like your the most beautiful person in the world. Wait for the one who is worthy of you, your attention and your heart. Don't settle for less than you deserve!
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Hi I'm 16/f and I work with this guy who is one of my closest friends ever and one of the only people I trust. There's nothing I wouldn't do for him and he knows me better than most people, including my family.
Right well anyway a few days ago I was over his house and we kind of got with each other, which isn't a bad thing because we both we equally into it. As far as I'm concerned, if it never happens again I don't really care and if it does then it was a bit of fun. The only thing that I won't be happy with is if he makes it different between us as friends, cause I know for me it hasn't changed anything. In fact if anything it's made me more comfortable with him.
Anyway, I saw him yesterday and he didn't say a word to me... I've text him a few times and he replies short replies and just let's the convo die. This isn't unlike him normally, and he gets a bit depressed, but I don't know whether I should text him again? I miss not talking to him, we used to talk every day without fail, or am I just overreacting? I saw him this morning and everything was fine in person..
I'm not awkward about what happened at all, and I'm pretty much open to any way this could go in the future (though I'm a bit skeptical about a relationship, and I don't want to lose him as my friend). I'm just worried he'll be awkward about it. He's 19.
Any ideas what I should do? I miss talking to him :(
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Don't text him to talk about a relationship. Wait till you can talk in person or if that isn't working, write him a letter. It's more personal than a text. Until you can talk openly about which way you both want to move on this, just continue to treat him as you would normally. Throw in as much humor as possible to lighten things up and get the lines of communication back open. Let him know as much as you enjoyed the get together, that you don't in any way want to jeopardize your friendship. Let him know you can separate the two sides of ya'll's relationship but your scared he might not be able to from the present actions he's giving. You are willing for now to accept nothing but a friendship unless he steps up and makes the initial move toward wanting something more. Keep in mind majority of the time friendships don't remain when romance enters the relationship, however it also depends on each individual person, the honesty and clarity used on both parts, and the maturity levels of both. Anything can be done if you both go into it with an open eye and heart. Don't Lise sight of how you feel and what you believe and things will work out as they should. Good Luck!
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Ok so there's a boy in my class and first off I went to my boy friends not like boy friend boy friend just friends and we were scalpting in the snow I needed a shovel so I asked them If I could use one and before I finished my sentence a guy gave it to me. (at the beginning of the year last year he scarred my friends with a worm and I didn't move, and he was like "I like you" not like in a crush) and after he gave the the shovle a little later that day I had to go to the orthodontics and he followed me when I got back he was like where did u go I couldn't find u. A day later we had had chocolate and he has the birthday of the same month as me so all the people that were born in the same month went up and I was the first one there after he came up and gave me tips and stuff so hot chocolate will tast better and stuff like that. I have never dated anyone before and I'm thirteen and I don't know when some one likes you cause no one ever tells me when someone likes me so please help... Oh ya almost forgot I'm a girl (link)
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Oh sweetie, your 13 and the world of boys are just starting! It doesn't matter if he likes you or not! The real question should be, Do you like yourself? Your answer should be, Yes! You will attract so many guys if you just accept who you are. Focus on what is important to you right now which should be yourself, your family and your education. Boys will come and go, some will stay a little longer than others. Most will try to be something they aren't at first, eager to impress you. Time will reveal whether they really like you and if you SHOULD like them back. Do not settle for any less than what you give in return with a friendship or love interest relationship. There's many more things to worry about in life whether someone likes you or not. Rule 1: If they like you, you will know, you won't have to ask or wonder!
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so me and my bestfriend kinda had an argument about this guy...cuz apperently she dont like it when i talk to her ex now bestguyfriend. and according to him he has been having some feelings for me...and i started liking him too..and i think my bestfriend somehow heard people said that we were flirting so since then we havnt talk much..but two days ago me and him had an argument and a day later my bestfriend and him hanged out and according to her they kissed and they r gonna be back together in 2 months when he gets his license..but he told me that he was get his license to be with me...cuz we live far away from him..and his not a player when hes single he flirts but when his in a relationship hes always loyal..now idont knw what to do...ithink that he wants her back but i also think she lying to me
please help idont know what to do.
HES 18 AND WE ARE 15 THANKYOU PLEASE HELP ME :( (link)
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You both are being played and no guy is worth losing A FRIENDSHIP OVER! yOUR 15 AND i WILL TELL YOU BOTH THAT NO MATTER WHO HE GOES OUT WITH YOU IT WON'T LAST AND IF HE PLAYING WITH YOUR HEADS THERE ARE PROBABLY MORE. wHY IS AN 18 YR OLD WANT TO DATE 15 YR OLDS? iS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH HIM? sTEP OUT OF THE BOX AND BOTH THINK ABOUT IT RATIONALLY. dON'T DATE EX'S OF BESTFRIENDS UNLESS HE'S WORTHY OF YOU HAVING AN EXBESTFRIEND!
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Well this is really uncomfortable for me to talk about with people, I only had one friend who used to support me, she also liked to cross-dress as a boy. But that was when I was 15, somehow things changed and we stopped talking. Anyway I'm now 18 and moved to a really nice place in the 'burbs of Illinois, no one knows me even though I've been living here for about 7 months.
I graduated early last year and I'm currently working to put myself through Tech School. So I basically go to work (out of the suburb I live in) and come back home. Which I take why I have literally no friends. It upsets me. Anyway, that's not the issue here.
I started cross-dressing when I was 14 all the way till I was 16. My best friend at the time used to tell me I looked like a cute boy, it didn't bother me since I secretly wanted to look like one. To this day I'm still not sure why. By the way I'm 18 now.
Anyway, she and I started cross-dressing on weekends in secret. My mom caught me once and she found it odd but didn't say much about it, she did sort of support me after she saw it continued I didn't need to hide it from her, she even started calling me a boys name for awhile.
Then awhile later I decided to tell my dad about it, I was really nervous since when I was about the age of 9 or 10 he yelled at me once for wanting to wear a boys uniform to school instead of a girls. When I turned 13 he also told me that if I kept buying "boy's shoes," people in school were going to start rumors. I was still pretty naive at that age so I didn't understand, when he noticed that he just told me he wouldn't have a gay daughter. (It mentally scarred me.)
Well as the years went by my dad and I were fairly distant, since he had to work a lot, my mom and I were fairly close. My sisters were terrible to me ever since I was little, so I avoided them as much as I could.
When I turned 16 and got my first boyfriend, I told my dad about my cross-dressing. By then I guess we had a milder closeness. Since our family was going downhill. (My mom was distancing from me.) He wasn't surprised he said and laughed about it made a bit uncomfortable but he then told me about a uncle of his and an aunt who would cross-dress. Which made me slightly relieved to know. But also confused me still.
My sisters never found out about my "hobby," well a few days after I turned 17 my mom announced she was leaving us for some man she met at her health club. Since then things between my mom and I have been...cold. I stopped cross-dressing after that. I don't even know why. Then a month after I graduated early, my best friend ended up telling me she hated me ever since we met? Which just confused me more and made things worse.
My sisters both moved out with their boyfriends and I was left with my dad. We lived in a truck with my two cats for 8 months. (He's a trucker.)
Now a few months after, my eldest sister was having financial problems so my dad moved me in with her in this nice new suburb. I don't want to sound odd or racist. But we always lived in "poor" suburbs so most of my friends have always been latino (like myself,) or black or asian. So for some reason I feel out of place here. Everyone here is either white or middle eastern, I don't have a problem with that, it just makes me shy to talk to anyone. I don't know why.
Well I have 3 online best friends I met back when I was 15, they don't live in the U.S. ):
They know about my cross-dressing days. My friend touched the subject the other day and asked me if I missed it. I was honest and said yes. He told me I should do what ever makes me happy. I told him that ever since the split in my family and my group old friends, I had become rather jaded. My self-esteem that was once pretty high, for some reason went down extremely low.
Which confuses me because when I was 15-17 I was pretty fat but was pretty self confident. And now that I'm nice and slim I feel so anxious and self-conscious. He then scolded me and went on to point out something true, that now that I'm thin and my chest has gone down I'll look more guyish. ( I was a Dcup and am now a Bcup.)
About a week later ( a week ago from today)I thought about it and cut my hair rather short. My dad came home from work and asked why I did and I told him I was tired of my long hair (which I really was,) and that a new year means a new hairstyle. He didn't give it much thought. My sister and her boyfriend both said they liked it, and that it fit me so that made me happy.
Yesterday on my day off I decided to go grocery shopping on my own while everyone else was at work . I wore my regular jeans and "borrowed" a shirt and hoodie from my sisters boyfriend, just to see if I would be more comfortable. I didn't put much makeup on messed my hair a bit and went out. I felt awkward at first, like if everyone knew or could tell. I texted my buddy and he gave a peptalk, when I rode the bus back home from shopping a lady said, "excuse me young man do you know the time." It made my heart flutter, so when I got home I went to the bathroom and tried on most of my sister's boyfriends clothes (except for jeans they're too big on me) and decided I want to be open about it. I want to be able to dress and look how I want. But I'm scared and embarrassed to tell my dad. I thought about slowly making changes to my wardrobe, but feel reluctant to. My sisters and I are now closer, well at least the one I live with.
When I first moved in with her we spoke about a lot of past thins, family matters and such. She told me something that was odd but true, that between the three of us I was always the smarter one and the one that would leap in as the one to stop all the estrogen tension in our family. That I always had a boy like feel to me. It made me feel sort of like a freak. Or like I was born the wrong gender.
If it helps to know I've come to find I can fall for either sex. I like people for what they have on the inside not out.
Anyway, sorry it's terribly long but any advice appreciated! Please help me, and if you cross-dress too, well any tips about going out in public? I mean like what bathroom am I supposed to use?
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When I was younger I was a tomboy and as a grown woman I still like my jeans and t-shirts cause I chase after 2 boys. Nothing wrong with feeling comfortable. If you have a job that lets you dress as you like, then do what you like. Every now and then just to shake things up and keep them guessing, wear a dress with some heels, extra make up etc. Short hair means nothing one way or another except your saving money on shampoo and conditioner. You might find you like the extra attention from dressing up, then again it might not matter to you. If you are trying to further your career, you might want to look around and see who is advancing and what they are wearing. Don't adhere to one specific type of clothes. Be diverse!
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One of my teachers has cancer. She missed a lot of school and was struggling to get grades for our class. She took one worksheet and took it for 3 different grades, 2 daily and 1 test. I know I got 100 on it, but when I checked my grade, it showed a 95, 100, & 80. I was really mad because I know she just made up the grades to get them entered in time. I tried emailing her about it a few times because she gets pissed when I try to talk to her during class. She never changed my grade and it messed up my 6 weeks and my semester grade because of this and it screwed up my GPA. Is it wrong that I'm mad about this? (link)
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Yes, I would be somewhat upset, but approach it with understanding. This probably helped a lot of students out like if you were grading on a curve, but in your case No. Talk to her rationally and calmly and tell her why your upset and what your expecting her to do about it. There is always a door or opportunity to go back and change any grades. But stay on it and don't wait.
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I was on lo loestrin fe for a couple months and then i switched to aviane (generic of aleese). About a month ago I switched back to lo loestrin fe and just finished the pack today. I had sex 2 days ago. I have been taking some form of birth control pill everyday (no missed days) and I finished the aviane before I switched back to lo loestrin fe. I was just wondering if this would affect my chance of a pregnancy. My doctor said my period will probably be iregular until my body gets used to the lo loestrin fe again because they are different hormones than the aviane. (link)
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From my experience, everybody's body works differently and on different meds even more so. What is the average norm for one is not necessarily the norm for someone else. Lots of factors apply. Age, weight, genetic history, physical activity, sexual activity, etc...
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I'm female and 16, 5ft 10, 128kg. I'm vegetarian (if that changes anything.)
I never eat breakfast, an average lunch during school days would be a pita bread with cheese and a cup of tea or a yogurt, flapjack and bottle of water. Dinner varies, some things I tend to have are - always vegetables, potatoes, baked beans, egg, wheat free pasta, vegetable soups etc.
I exercise - Zumba classes ever Monday and swimming on Thursdays and Sundays.
My friend always tells me I'm far too skinny and don't eat enough. I use to be practically anorexic about two years back.
I said I couldn't finish the pasta dish I had at hers one time (it was wheat pasta which I'm not use to eating; I don't eat it at home as my mom is allergic to wheat.) and she had a massive go at me saying it's because my stomach has shrunk because I don't eat enough.
Should I eat more, or was she just over reacting? (link)
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I have always been a small person, 47 yrs old, 2 kids 5'4,104 lbs. I don't eat breakfast, sometimes lunch, moderate dinner and snack if I feel snackish. I used to have a very metabolism but as slacked some with age. I eat when I'm hungry and don't if I'm not. If I'm stressing I don't eat as much. If you know you had an eating problem and you feel like your not eating healthy or enough then you know what to do. If you not obsessing about needing to lose weight then eat when you feel like you need to. Every overweight person I know eats at the same time everyday whether they are hungry or not. They say they eat to keep from getting hungry. I say that causes obesity later on.
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Hello,
I'm looking for advice as to what I could use to make my brown-black furniture look stylish and not so old somehow.
As I'm a student moving out, naturally I don't have so much money so I'm buying some furniture pieces from Ikea. The "ENGAN" series.
I don't mind the black with brown-black furniture but at the same time it doesn't feel very stylish to me, but I'd like to have a nice atmosphere to my room and whatnot.
So what colours can I use to make it fresh and nice looking with this dark furniture?
Any ideas? :) It would be very much appreciated!
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Any of the primary colors that you like you can accessorize with...pillows, throws, lamp shades, knicknacks, rugs,etc. Bright Blue, orange,yellow, school colors perhaps?
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I'm a 17-year-old guy who's been with the same girl(now 18) for a couple years. One day I walked in on her attempting suicide, and we got help. She was away for a few weeks at a mental health hospital for her depression, and while she was there, what I had seen that day was eating away at me. As a way of coping, I starting smoking pot.
Then, when she got out, she found out what I had been doing and told me I had to stop because it was "unhealthy", and she has always been 100% anti-drug.
This Wednesday she left to spend a week with her friend who lives in another state, and her friend's boyfriend smokes a lot of pot. She hasn't been answering any of my calls, or texting me back at all.
Tonight, when I called her to talk to her, she answered, stoned out of her mind and couldn't keep a thought for more than two seconds(yes, I counted), which tells me she smoked a LOT of weed. This is after for "health" reasons she made me quit, and now she goes behind my back and spends a week out of state with two people I've never met, and has probably been smoking all week.
What should I do? How should I confront her?
Thanks,
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Sounds like your girlfriend is not experienced with different lifestyles. Maybe even is trying to find herself because she is confused about who she wants to be or what she really believes. Talk with her calmly and honestly. Decide what your logically problems are with her doing this, then present her with them and discuss rational why this bothered you. Reassure her she can be honest with you and you her and she doesn't have to do anything to please any one else. they will like an accept her for who she is and if they don't she doesn't need them. Explain the importance of why you need the honesty and why your relationship needs equal boundaries.
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I've been contemplating suicide for a good time now. I'm struggling with homosexuality and my faith. Faith says that it's wrong yet I feel driven towards homosexuality and I feel guilty for acting on it. Idk what to do... I just kinda wanna be gone so all those problems will be gone. I guess I'm just depressed and it's doing things to me (link)
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First go to your local health facility and ask to see a counselor to help you manage your thoughts. Secondly, never contemplate suicide, time heals all wounds. Third keep in mind that without struggles in life we as people would not be able to appreciate the finer things that happen to us. Have faith in yourself and what makes you happiest. The rest will fall into place.
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My boyfriend and I are in high school, he is a senior, and I am a junior. We've been together for six months, so our relationship is pretty serious. I've made him a scrapbook for a month-a-versary, bought him a picture frame with a picture of us for Christmas, and given him poems, so all of those things are out of the question. I want something fresh and new!
He really likes guitars. He has an electric guitar, but he complains it is difficult to play since he has no amp. He and I went to a small family party, and my godmother had an acoustic guitar in her bedroom. He started playing some melodies, and said he always wanted an acoustic guitar, because they're so much easier. So I've planned to buy him an acoustic guitar on craigslist. 50 dollars is my budget.
I want to include some cute notes along with the guitar with reasons why I love him, but I want to find a cool way to put them in the guitar or underneath the strings. Any ideas?
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Look up Love quotes and write them on small piece's of paper, fold them up and place them in the hole of the guitar.
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