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I want to try to convince her that suicide isn't the answer! Please help me!
Ok. My best friend Lydia is planning to kill herself with a overdose and I want to try to convey to her that suicide isn't the answer. that people are here 4 her. How do I do this so she won't get mad at me?? I don't want her to die. We are both 13 and are girls.
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i suggest telling someone that you and her both trust. Always think of a difficult situation this was... "if it wont affect me next year than itll be okay" or even next week, or next month. nothing will last forever. Drugs are not a good thing to get into. i suggest talking to a social worker at school or her/your parents.
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Tell her parents, or your own, or someone at school who you can trust to step in.
She is going to get mad at you, at least for a while, but that is just her mental illness talking. Sometimes people get mad at us for doing the right thing, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do the right thing. You should be mad at her for expecting you to just let her kill herself. That was a mean and silly thing for her expect you to do.
Convincing her is step two.
Step one is simply making sure she can't do it.
So tell someone who has the power to stop her.
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KlutzyKim is right; you need to tell either her parents or yours. You could even tell the police. Believe it or not attempting or planning to commit suicide is against the law. No they will not put her in jail but they will get her the professional help she needs.
My wife works for the largest mental health provider in the USA. What doctors know about people who plan to or attempt to commit suicide is that they are very depressed. What the doctors need to do is treat the depression and find out what is causing the depression. While this may sound like the same thing it is not.
You can treat the effects of the depression with medication. To cure the depression requires therapy to find out what is so troubling as to be the root cause. In the case of suicide they need to find out why the patient felt so desperate that end of life was the only answer.
While it is good that you want to help your friend and to stop her from doing this, you are not qualified to do so. I don't say that to be mean but it is actually possible to push her in the wrong direction while trying to help her if you don't know what is the right things to say. As a firefighter neither as EMTs or paramedics are trained in what to say to these people yet we are the ones called to help them. If need be we have to rely on police who are trained to a degree to help us.
I know your thinking if you tell her parent, your parents or the police you could lose her as a friend. Is it not better that she be alive and mad at you, while in treatment, then dead and buried. Once she is feeling better she will thank you for telling someone.
It is my belief that the fact that she has told you she is in her own way expecting you to tell someone. It is her way of asking for help. So help her and either tell her parents, your parents the police or a trusted teacher.
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You need to tell her parents, or yours so they can take action. She might get mad at you at first, but that shouldn't matter to you enough to stop you from taking any serious action. A true friend would tell a trusted adult no matter the risk.
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