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How over-the-line was my friend?
We are both older women. My friend was mildly angry with me, over a misunderstanding that sorely inconvencienced her. The same week, I had borrowed her computer. I forgot to log out, so she went and deleted my most recent 800 career-related E-mails. I asked her why she did it. She said, "Because you don't need so many". But, I think she did it out of anger. In 5 years, she has never hurt me before. She is manic-depressive. She says she is taking her meds. I told her I wished she hadn't done that. She said it would give me even more computer speed (false). Obviously I won't use her computer anymore, but should I file a police report, stop visiting her, or just forgive her? Does this mean she is a dangerous person?
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I feel like a great deal is missing from your question. It makes it very difficult to answer.
You've known her for years. She's manic-depressive. She's likely gone through ups and downs over those years. You are probably the best judge of whether or not she is dangerous.
Did she behave maliciously? Yes. But it's possible that with her mental illness she is able to recognize her own behavoir.
If she can't understand what she did and why it was wrong, there isn't much point in going on blaming her, and you are left to decide if you can still be friends with someone who gets that out of touch with reality.
Again, that is a decision only you can make.
The police are unlikely to do very much for you - What she did was illegal, but it is more difficult to make a case if you left the e-mail up on her computer.
In your position, depending on what I knew about her mental health and ability to comprehend what had happened, I'd probably cool down the friendship and back off a bit.
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