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About rebound relationship...
Hi.. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago which we have been in a relationship for 4 months. Before he broke up with me, he always tells me he loves me whenever we make out and I will stay over at his house every alternative weekends to pass our time being together since we are busy at work on the weekdays. Throughout our relationship, I was very indeed very happy to be able to be myself and felt very comfortable being with him.
We even went for a vacation outside of the city when we are just 3 months in a relationship, just the two of us. But things went downhill after the vacation where he started to feel that his love for me compared to his ex was not that great. He told me that he will fix this relationship up because it might be that the relationship was still new and it needs time to develop the feeling. I did not see that the problem will arise because all these while we were happy being together and two weeks later, he break the relationship off with me. The reason was he was unsure what he wants in a relationship and what he expects for his future wife to be. He even told me that he can't give his 100% love to anyone right now as he felt that relationship was a burden due to the commitment he needs to give in. I felt hurt because he gave up so easily on the relationship without fixing things with me and I stayed in no contact rules with him (no texting, no phone calls).
Within two weeks of our break up, I noticed that he was seeing someone new and updating his status on how great the outing was, he misses someone. On that weekend, he did find me to chat over the messenger and he even shared with me his good news on his work. I just kept my cool by replying him short replies. I do not know whether what I did was right or wrong? Another two weeks passed, with no mistake.. he changed his relationship status as "in a relationship" on his facebook and he even changed his profile picture with his current girlfriend now. I felt hurt and angry which leads me to delete him off as a friend on facebook.
Can anyone advise me what actually a rebound relationship is and does it usually happen on the dumpee or the dumper? will a rebound relationship happen even if our relationship being together was just for a short period of time? I am really confused and all the questions kept on popping on my head whether does he really mean it when he told me that he loves me? Does the break up affect him due to the level of intimacy we had in the past which leads him to jump into a new relationship after 2 weeks of our break up?
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Rebound relationship is usually a relationship which the dumpee or dumper gets with someone to either bother the other person or to get over the other person they were dating. A rebound relationship can happen after any relationship no matter how short. Your ex sounds like a VERY confused young man and it doesn't sound like he knows what he wants. It maybe that he cared for you but he wasn't in love with you but I don't know for sure he would be the only one to tell you. You should just move on and not worry about him. If he is going to act like this than don't waste your time. Keep your head up!
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Labels like 'rebound' aren't going to help you right now.
Relationships that begin as a 'rebounds' can turn into wonderful, long-term, relationships. It happens. There is no way at the beginning to know which is which. There is nothing to be gained by dwelling on questions that have no answers.
It's tough. I think it's the toughest things about a breakup: Learning to accept the 'not knowing'.
You can't know if he really meant it when he said he loved you.
You can't really know if your relationship with him was a 'rebound'.
You can't know what effect your relationship had on his choice to jump into a new relationship so quickly.
It's normal to be haunted by these sorts of questions after a breakup, but you'll never get reliable answers. Peace will come to you when you accept 'not knowing'.
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