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What if someone raped me ir murdered me. Most likely both.
13/f
Okay so I was taking my puppy out to go to the bathroom and we have two doors at the one entrance and I only close one because I was coming back in. Well my dad got mad because I only closed one so he literally locked me out of my house. I rung the doorbell and banged in the door for 3 minutes before my mom finally came and unlocked it because she couldn't read through the noise and then she yelled at me for making the noise. Then my dad yelled at me for only closing one door because it was letting the heat out. But the thing is he NEVER turns on the heat. I'm in two sweatshirts, two pairs if socks, and a blanket and I'm still cold. But why would he lock me out of the house? I think that's immature and even dangerous. What if someone pocked me up and kidnapped me. What if someone raped me ir murdered me. Most likely both. Granted I don't know who would come up to someone with a Siberian husky that looks like a wolf but ut was dark out. But he did that to show me I should close the door? That's not dramatic.
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I think your father over reacted and you may be being a bit melodramatic.
You were wrong in leaving the door open regardless of whether the heat was on in the house or not. I would suggest you apologize to your dad for doing so. Then tell him how scared you were being locked out of the house.
Your dad was trying to teach you a lesson. His method was wrong and probably motivated by anger. When we are angry we act without thinking. I'm sure if your dad had thought about it he could have come up with a better object lesson that locking you out of the house or just punished you for leaving the door open.
Telling your dad that I said he was wrong in what he did will not serve your purpose. What you need to do is to apologize as you too were wrong for leaving the door open which made him angy.
By apologizing you open a line of communication between you and your dad that allows you to CALMLY tell him how scared you were in being locked out. I'm sure once you tell him this he too will apologize to you and explain he did so in anger and was not thinking about how scared you would be. I believe your dad was trying to teach you a lesson, not scare the living daylights out of you.
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I think this comes down to a breakdown in communication from both sides.
We are all living through recession times and are conscious of money and the cost of living. Only your Mum and Dad know their financial situation, but possibly heating is an area that they have had to cut down on to save money. So leaving a door open for an unknown length of time could be seen as quite a crime. Anger might well have driven your Dad to the extreme of behaviour when he locked that door; he wasn't thinking of any possible consequences to you, he was reacting to that loss of heat, (however cold it seems to you inside the house, it's still probably colder outside).
For you, a 13 year-old, it's all in the drama of 'what if?' which covers many possibilities, most of which are unlikely. You'd have been very unlikely to have been kidnapped, raped or murdered in that situation but nevertheless, you feel outraged at being locked out.
This is where communication would probably have helped a great deal. If your parents had convinced you of the importance of saving heat (and therefore money) within the home, you possibly would've done this differently.
If you had told your parents you were taking the dog out for a few minutes, their worries would have been lessened; they would have known you were out there and any possible kidnapping, raping or murdering that might have taken place would have been discovered a lot earlier.
Short answer is arguments like this happen in every family that has growing children in it. Hopefully, by now it's all blown over and forgotten. I do hope so. Keep in touch if you think I can help? Best wishes, Carriebeca.
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