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I am 13 and pregnant. My boyfriend doesn't want me anymore and I don't know how to tell my parents!
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I found out that my 15 yearold boyfriend got me pregnant.I called him and told him and he freaked out. He told he can't take care of a baby now and that he doesnt want to be part of this.I don't know what to do about the baby.I don't know how to tell my parents and don't know what to do about my boyfriend.I need help and I'm scared.
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Unfortunately if you are sure you are pregnant you have no choice but to tell you parents. It won't be easy. It's not something you say at the dinner table like; "please pass the butter and oh by the way I'm pregnant."
You ask your parents to sit down with you someplace quiet without any siblings around to disturb you and you just tell them. No preamble just; "Mom, dad I'm pregnant and so and so is the father. There will be crying, yelling and screaming, then there will be calm. When they calm down you can talk.
Unfortunately at 13 you have very little say in what is to happen next. Whether you have the baby or not, if you are to give the baby up for adoption or if you raise this child yourself are choices your parents have to make for you. That is the law as of this time.
While your boyfriend may not want you anymore he cannot just walk away from this situation either. He, mainly his parents at this time, are just as responsible for his baby as your parents are. His responsibilities do not end until this child obtains the age of 18.
Should your parents decide that you should have this baby and raise this child; then you and your parents need to contact a lawyer to make sure the courts insure that your boyfriend and his parents provide for this child as required by law until the child is 18.
I'm not going to lecture you on what you shouldn't have done. It is to late for that and I'm sure mom and dad are going to do a good job of that. Your job now is to do what is right based on what you parents feel is right.
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My ex boyfriend's mother was thirteen when she had him, it was hard, not only that but her boyfriend was 17 at the time, her parents had a hard time accepting what she had done. And when the time came she was so tiny that her birth was premature, he was born at six months, she almost died and they had a hard time, she raised him by herself and it wasn't easy. I suggest you take another test just to be safe. If it's positive you need to tell your parents, it will be hard but it has to be done, you might be surprised, I had a scare once, and I told my mom and she oddly was supportive of me. Then you need to decide the best option.
There are three options.
One carry out with the pregnancy and give birth.
Two Carry it out and give the baby up for adoption, you can give the baby the chance to have a good life.
Three You can get an abortion, I am pro-life and I normal would be against it, but you are thirteen and your boyfriend hung you out to dry. You're so little chances are this is going to be an emotional and physical struggle. You could die giving birth if you're not big enough, and your baby could die too. I suggest you tell your mother at least and go to the doctor, see what they suggest...
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First, you need to tell your parents. Don't leave a note, don't make a joke about it. I don't think they make a Hallmark card for this particular occasion, either. Just sit them down, and tell them straight up. They will cry. They will ask what they've done to you to make you do this to them. They will yell. Then they will calm down and try to help you do what is best, because that is what parents do.
Then you (and your parents) need to figure out what your plans are for the future. Are your parents willing to help you raise the baby? If not, then you're sort of out of luck there. You won't be able to support yourself at this point, let alone a child. If you are keeping it, will you go to school? What programs are available for young mothers in your area? What options do you have with regards to adoption? Is it better for your body to have an abortion because you're so young? You also need to get to a doctor's office as soon as possible so that you can find out what your body needs to make a healthy baby, whether you're keeping it or giving it up for adoption, or if you're going to go the abortion route.
If you are keeping the baby, you need to be aware of your rights. Whether he wants the responsibility or not, it takes two to reproduce, so your boyfriend is on the line to help you out. He is legally required to help, so don't let him whine his way out of it. He needs to man up right now. I can pretty much guarantee that if he won't do it on his own, his parents would make him do it.
You've got a life to be responsible for now. Make sure you do what is best for the both of you.
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hello ! this is a very sad position that your in , i hate when girls like your age is pregnant and to make it worst the boy who you called your boyfriend does not what to be a part of your life ,you see what happens when you have boys to young , while your mom will freak out ,but be claim and pray to god he does answer prays okay and if you ever need someone to talk to i,m always available on twitter and facebook as lenica crawford, i,ll have you in my prays peace and love
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I know it will be hard to tell your parents but calm down. DO your parents know that you had a boyfriend? If yes it will be hard but not as hard as if they didn't know. I say go to your MOM 1st and tell her and then go to your dad. Or if you only want to say it once say it to both of them at the same time. How do you know your pregnant? Did you get a pregnancy test?How did you get them well if you found out. Well I know that your only 13 so I personally think that because you so young well to have a baby I would say to just put your baby up for adoption but if you think you can handle him/he by yourself then so be it. You just need to calm down and just take a deep breath and go and tell your parents. When you tell then so like I'm sorry I wasn't thinking well if you weren't planing on it. were u 2 planing on doing it. Before you go and tell them think of what you want to say. If you do go along with your pregnancy you have to do certain stuff like take prenatal vitamins and all of that fun stuff. The most important thing is that you keep you and your unborn baby safe. If you need anymore help after this please ask away.
Just remember think it over and take a deep breath.
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