I'm 18. Female. Senior in high school. I like my friend who is also female. We are both Bisexual. She is a junior in high school. We've never had girlfriends, and its been a while since we've had boyfriends. ive liked her on/off for a year, and i dont want to ruin our friendship if she doesnt like me like that. also, we are in orchestra together, and she is my section leader.. so if anything bad happens to our relationship, or even if shes weirded out by me liking her, it will affect that class ,and i dont want that to happen. what should i do?
thanks a bunch :)
But if y’all do date…..keep it on the down low for a while. Like, make it obvious that you like her and she likes you. But not enough for people to know y’all are together. Then if everything goes good, tell the world :)
Oh, and if it starts to feel weird and stuff, just promise each other that y’alll will go back to being friends
kittenlover2000 answered Tuesday October 25 2011, 6:04 pm: Hey,
So if I was you, then I would contact a mutual friend. Explain the situation to them, and then get the friend to like jokingly hint to your crush that you guys are something more. Get the friend to say stuf like: "you're gonna marry (your name) to your crush. If she denies it then it's nkow skin off your back, and if she laughs it off then perhaps build up the courage to write a letter explaining how you feel for her.
Letters always say it better as they're more personal and convey more meaning.
Good luck, things always work out in the end :) [ kittenlover2000's advice column | Ask kittenlover2000 A Question ]
AdviceMistress answered Tuesday October 25 2011, 2:15 pm: Well you have to figure out what is more important having a relationship or the friendship? I know you really like her but it sounds like the friendship means a lot more to you. I've asked out many of my guy friends and it hasn't always worked out. Sometimes they got so weird they would stop talking to me. People take things differently I guess but it could be that if you do say something she might be unsure. Have you casually brought it up saying something like "I had a dream last night that we were together" and seeing what she says. You shouldn't be scared or anything its not like you're planning on stalking her or anything. I'm sure you'll figure out something and when you do you'll be happy with your decision I'm sure. [ AdviceMistress's advice column | Ask AdviceMistress A Question ]
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