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Me and my girlfriend are lesbians
me and my girlfriend are lesbians who plan on getting married soon. we want to join the navy but are worried we will get stationed in other places than eachother. if only one of us joins the navy would i still be allowed to live with her and could she go without being sent away for months at a time? thanks for any help
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You'd have to do some research into it, but as I understand it you have to be legally married to live on base. DADT was repealed, but the federal government still does not recognize gay marriage. While states can and do, you can't file your IRS tax return as a married couple and I'd bet that the military won't recognize it either even if you got married and joined up from a state where it was legal and recognized.
Do some research, just don't ask a recruiter (they can and will lie to you to get you to join) and see, but I think you'd not be granted any recognition. You wouldn't be able to live in on-base housing and there would be none of the allowances they might make for a married couple in the service or a married couple with one person in the service.
As to being sent away, I don't think you could do anything about that regardless. A friend of mine joined the navy and was married, and his wife lived on base on the East Coast while he was on a ship that went all over the world and was gone for months.
Joining the armed forces will mean long separations no matter what you do, I don't think there's any way to escape that part no matter who you are. And again, recruiters might tell you otherwise but that's just to get you to sign up, then people with more authority than the recruiters can do whatever they want with you.
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