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Why is my dad so upset with me?!
Hi I'm Haley I'm 13.Well yesterday my 15 yearold brother's friend came over and my brother wasn't home.Since I knew him we were just chillin in my room and talking and stuff.Then we didn't have anything to talk about and he asked if I wanted to makeout I said yes and we started kissing on my bed and my dad justs comes in my room after like 5 mins.He was pretty mad at me and today after he picked me up from school he told me I'm grounded.Why is my dad so upset with me?! Any advice is welcome
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Your dad is going to do mad at you. Sorry.That's just the way it's. Most likely he wants you to be 18.And just how old is this "friend" of your bother?!? And let me tell you something. A real friend duos not make out with his Bff's sister. If had I older bother I not going to ask to have sex with his best friend but I'm going to do make sure that he know we are boy friend and girl friend.
And if you are not friends....well some girls do that. You know have sex with a guy that you not friend with(or knows.) Now I'm just going to say this and say it one time:If you going on play this sh you will get heart and your poor bother most likely will get mad.
It's up to you now but remember this:If you go on doing this you are a BAD girl.
Good luck.
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Let me see if I can put this from a dads' point of view.
I come home and find my (little) girl laying on her bed hugging and kissing with a boy. The fact that he is older enters into the equations but even if he is her age what enters my mind is not something I want to think about.
Yes, I over react, I jump from zero to 60 and wonder how far this would have gone if I had been a half hour later getting home. Would I have found you still hugging and kissing or would I have found this boy pawing over your half naked or naked body. Would I have found you in even a more compromising position.
Have your mother and I set down rules for having friends over when we are not home. What are the rules for having boys over and in your room when we are not home. All of this went through my mind in less time then it takes for me to type this or for you to read this.
I think your father showed great restraint not saying or doing anything until the next day. Giving him time to cool down, possibly talk with your mother on the proper way to handle this situation. I do not know if I could have shown this restraint.
You are a 13 year old girl. Yes I remember what it was like when I was your age and when I was 15 as well. I'm sure your father remembers too; There in lies the problem. Making out is sort of the right of passage. As a parent I know this will happen, I just don't want to see it or have it happen in my home, in your bedroom, were it could go further than you plan.
What you need to do is apologize to your father. Tell him your sorry and it won't happen again. You, he and I all know that when the opportunity comes again you will make out with another boy; as I said this is a right of passage. Apologizing tells him you broke a rule and are acknowledging it.
As for making out with boys? Set your boundaries now and stick to them. Do not let anyone push you past where you are willing to let them go. Do not succumb to peer pressure that someone else is doing this or that. First it probably not true. Second that is there is to do, you do not have to follow them.
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Because you're his 13 year old daughter and you're making out with a guy, who also happens to be older than you which doesn't help. He's being a dad and getting upset that you're growing up.
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prbly not angry more worried.
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