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He rescued me, and now I like him?
So about two and a half weeks ago I was hanging around the football field after a football game with one of my friends (were both cheerleaders, so we had to stay after to put up our mats and stuff). While I was carrying one of the mats to the locker room one of the guys on the football team was also hanging around (even though it was pretty late after the game). I know the guy, but we don't really hang out and stuff and only have a few mutual friends. Anyway, he called me over and I went to go talk to him and right away I knew something was weird. He started hitting on me and touching my arm and asking me if he could give me a ride home and what not. I said no and told him I had to go. But he grabbed me and pulled me into the guys' locker room. I tried to get away, but I was really no match for this kid. He had me pinned against a wall and was half trying to dry hump me/cover my mouth and half trying to get my skirt off, when thank God, my friend Jake found me. Jake plays football and had forgotten his phone in his locker and came back to get them. He shoved the other dude off me and was trying to get him to fight him but the other guy ran off.
Since then, the other dude hasn't admitted that he had physically forced me to do anything. Not much I can do to prove it so I kind of have to leave it at that. But the thing is... ever sicne then I've been feelings this weird attraction to Jake. Even though for years he's been like a brother to me... It's weird. I think it just may be because he rescued me, and I'm having some weird response to that... I really don't want to like him... haha he's a great guy and really hot but he's my friend and I don't want to ruin that and I'm not sure what to do. Any advice? By the way, I'm sixteen, girl. The guys are both seventeen.
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I agree with the "reporting it" like STAT, but to the JAKE issue... im sure you've heard of Icarly on the NICK show... this reminds me of the episode where FREDDY saves CARLY from a car running over her. Yes Im an adult but my little sister watches this so sue me if i watch it too. After the accident she suddenly felt atracted to him. She wasn't in love with him, she was in love with what he did. He had to push her away even tho he didnt want to. With time she figured he was right. Give it time. If you still feel this way for him then go for it, let him know. Most of the time "friends" of the opposite sex are near you because they are attracted to you as a person. Yes sometimes they just want a friendship but you will never know unless something happens. But keep your distance, if he wants something with you, he will come. Be patient...
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Thirding the report that shit. Don't let the lack of evidence stop you from reporting sexual assault, douchebags like that depend on the idea that you will keep your mouth shut, if nothing else after you've reported it tell his coaches and spread it around so that other girls know to watch the fuck out. You stop guys like that by making others aware of what they are willing to do.
On the subject of Jake, give it some time. In a month if the attraction hasn't gone away it probably won't and was probably there all along with you ignoring it for the sake of the friendship. If that's the case, date him, because you won't be friends forever when you're actively into him and you might be something more if you give it a shot.
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To add to zane's advice. i agree that you need to tell an adult. becdause by not doing anything you not only let him off the hook... But you let him free to try to rape other girls. And they might not be so lucky as you to get away. And that can scar their lives and change them for ever.
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First, If Jake saw the whole incident then you have a witness and should report it. You may not have any physical evidence but always tell an adult when something like that happens. Not telling someone is only letting the guy off the hook and if there is a next time you may not be so fortunate.
You may feel attracted to Jake because he was at the right place at the right time and did the right thing, However dating a friend is funny if you really don't want to ruin what you have then try to keep it strictly a friendship. It doesn't hurt to become closer to someone who helps you but dating a friend you've known for years is a risk you take and if he means so much......I wouldn't take that risk.
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