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an abuse of religious values with a close friend
emotionally what can happen to a morman man if he does the ultimate betrayal and has sex with a woman of no religious values?
i am left feeling vry confused and am not sure what the outcome will be.
i know this will most likley destroy our friendship but am worried about how this wil mentally affect him?
both people involved are 22
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I'm not sure what you mean by: "the ultimate betrayal." other than having sex before marriage or having sex with a non-Mormon. Both of these would be a betrayal of his religion. Dating a non-Mormon would to my mind be a form of betrayal of his religion for as I said they are a very closed religion.
If you are dating a Mormon and he is aware you are a non Mormon two things come to mind. One; he is thinking of using you to experience that which he cannot experience with a women he can marry and bring home to his family. In other words you will never make a life with this man. Two; he has already decided the Mormon way of life is not the way he wants to live his life.
The second possibility is rare but it does happen. Unlike the Amish, who give there children a chance to experience life before committing to the Amish lifestyle, the Mormons do not give their children such an opportunity. Their life style within their religion allows for them to enjoy many of the, as the Amish say, fancy things. What they are not allowed is alcohol, cigarettes, premarital sex and some of the other things their religion considers sinful.
They must also commit a percentage of their income to the Church.
Only he can answer why he has decided to date outside his religion and why he is wanting to have a sexual relationship with you. If you are looking for a long term relationship with this man and possible marriage I would suggest you get answers as to why before you commit any further with him.
Of course there is always the possibility of you joining the Mormon Church, One thing they are away looking to do as they put it, is save people. From what you originally wrote you are a prime candidate in their eyes for savings.
Please keep in mind these are just my thoughts. But I feel you need some answers before you go any further with this relationship.
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Chances are, whatever he believes will happen in his life because of this act, is what will take place.
Because it's about belief. It's about his values and his opinion. If he deeply believes that having sex with a woman he is not married too, who has no religion, will cause him pain, loss of friendship or whatever else, that is likely what will happen.
We can experience many physical, medical problems, due to our emotions and beliefs. We can get stressed and feel ill. There is a direct correlation between our mental health and our physical health. So, although sex doesn't cause medical problems (besides STDs of course!) his unhappiness and belief in the wrongness of his actions might cause all kinds of unpredictable problems.
If you are the woman in this situation, the best thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation. Although you certainly care for him, you are currently the source of his pain and confusion, and helping him to compromise deeply held beliefs will only hurt you both.
If you are the man, seek whatever kind of forgiveness or repentance your beliefs require. Talk to a religious leader and get their advice. The important thing isn't to worry yourself, grow angry and depressed, and make yourself ill. It's not worth that. Nothing is.
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I wish I had a good answer for you; I do not. I roomed with a Mormon when I was in the Air Force, at training School and found him to be very attached to his religion.
I'm not sure what you mean by: "the ultimate betrayal." other than having sex before marriage or having sex with a non-Mormon. Both of these would be a betrayal of his religion. Dating a non-Mormon would to my mind be a form of betrayal of his religion for as I said they are a very closed religion.
If you are dating a Mormon and he is aware you are a non Mormon two things come to mind. One; he is thinking of using you to experience that which he cannot experience with a women he can marry and bring home to his family. In other words you will never make a life with this man. Two; he has already decided the Mormon way of life is not the way he wants to live his life.
The second possibility is rare but it does happen. Unlike the Amish, who give there children a chance to experience life before committing to the Amish lifestyle, the Mormons do not give their children such an opportunity. Their life style within their religion allows for them to enjoy many of the, as the Amish say, fancy things. What they are not allowed is alcohol, cigarettes, premarital sex and some of the other things their religion considers sinful.
They must also commit a percentage of their income to the Church.
Only he can answer why he has decided to date outside his religion and why he is wanting to have a sexual relationship with you. If you are looking for a long term relationship with this man and possible marriage I would suggest you get answers as to why before you commit any further with him.
Of course there is always the possibility of you joining the Mormon Church, One thing they are away looking to do as they put it, is save people. From what you originally wrote you are a prime candidate in their eyes for savings.
Please keep in mind these are just my thoughts. But I feel you need some answers before you go any further with this relationship.
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