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not a good girlfriend
18/f
my past relationships have ended suddenly because i have a nasty habit when it comes to getting close to someone. i'm very depression-prone. and usually when i'm with someone for awhile and i get depressed (for one reason or another) i start to push them away. press the right buttons, don't care about their feelings, act extremely distant and obviously sad, etc. i don't know why i do it, but i do. and i don't want to anymore. i'm with someone now and i really really love her. this is my first girlfriend. she's been my friend for years and so theres a lot of history there. anyways, lately i've been really down because of stress at work and with my friends. i took it out on her today and she started crying in front of me, and i immediately snapped out of my "fuck everything" mood and felt horrible. now, i know how girls work. i know you're not supposed to shut them out because they obviously think they did something wrong. she hasn't done anything wrong and it took me forever to explain that to her. i ended up buying her a balloon saying "i love you" along with a stuffed animal.
i don't want to make her cry anymore. she doesn't deserve that. we both have decent amounts of stress in our life and i don't want to add to hers. how can i fix the way i act in relationships? i don't want to chase her away like i did everyone else, since she's still my best friend and the only person i don't want to lose.
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the best thing you can do if you do that again is say "i'm sorry" and tell the person y you did it. I am pretty sure they will understand. If you want to stop then its going to take some time think of something else you can take your anger on not a person. Find a relaxing place that keeps you relaxed trust me that helps a lot i have anger issues 2. Be alone for a while until the anger goes away. That's pretty much what i can help you with.
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just stop thinking about what makes you stressed out and depressed when you feel that way go to a place where your alone or think of something that makes you happy
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I've done this in every single one of my relationships and I even do it now. The thing that seems to help me out is talking to someone (friend, family, bf/gf) about my issues and having them understand why I snap, if I do.
So, if you're stressed and depressed, tell your girlfriend about it and talk it out before acting out on your feelings.
Good luck with everything, hun. (:
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