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should I tell him about her?
My roommate in college is one of my friends. I've known her for 5 years and we get along okay. The only thing that bothers me about her is that she is such a huge flirt. She constantly flirts with guys and gets their numbers and then brags about it. She has been dating this guy Nick for a year now. Well we have been living in college for a week now and she's already got a few guys numbers and hung out with them several times. This isn't just a "friendly" thing... I know my friend. If she hangs out with a guy she likes, she makes sure she looks perfect. Meaning, she spends hours on hair and make up. So this isn't a friendly thing she's doing..
Its gotten so bad that one time this hot guy walked by and she was like "damnn! why am I still dating my boyfriend? there are plenty of other hotter guys out there!" So obviously she doesn't love her boyfriend.
It really bothers me that she has a boyfriend, but yet treats him this way by flirting with other guys. I don't know if I should stay out of it and not cause drama between her (also consider she is my roomie so if we had a fight, I would have to deal with her constantly) or should I tell her boyfriend about this??
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You should not tell her boyfriend about it. Unless he is a dear, close friend of yours.
You just haven't the right to do that to her.
You should tell her to dump the poor guy all ready.
You should tell her you don't like watching her carry on and comment about all these guys while some poor joe back home still thinks she wants to be with him. You can tell her it makes you unhappy and feel awkward. You can tell her it sucks to be around someone who you know is leading someone else on, because it does.
Don’t tell her what she feels. Don’t tell her she doesn’t love her boyfriend - she might honestly care for him, but her behaviour means she can’t be with him, and she needs to recognize that.
When she makes comments about other guys, or heads out with other guys, tell her “Are you single? ‘Cause if you aren’t single I don’t want to hear about.” You don’t have to listen to her go on if you don’t want too.
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Do not get between her and her relationship, You will stir tension and make things even more stressful for you. You both are roommates, You both will have to learn to have some sort of mutual respect for another. If you need to sit her down and discuss your concerns with her then do so but do it in a calm mature manner that doesn't sound as if you are trying to attack her. You may not always agree with what she does in her life but you also need to know that what she does is her business. Unless it is harming you or someone in anyway, There is no need to interfere with what she does. My best advise, Try and get along with her. You both do not have to be best friends but at least come to a mutual agreement with one another.
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