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Drunk fight with one of my best friends
Today, me, my fiance and my best friends (2 of them) decided that it seemed like a good night to drink. Long story short, we called another really good friend (Lets call him John) and invited him to drink with us. We all got nice and drunk and everything was going awesome. Friend number 1 and John were once in a relationship (2 years ago), it didn't end well..But they decided that they were both willing to give it another shot.. They made plans the next day (without consulting me) and Friend 1 was(is) staying at my place for a couple days and I had plans to hang out with her, so I was pretty upset about her making plans to leave and be with him. I was upset, BUT, I said "Go hang out with John.. It doesn't really matter" Then she got upset and started crying.. which made John really upset.. 1 went and sat by herself for a while and John went with her.. He came back to me, my fiance and friend 2. He blamed her being upset on me and was very angry.. enough to call me bad names and insult me very deeply. I know he was drunk.. and we all were.. but I don't know if I want to forgive him. We've been friends for 5ish years, and I've always considered him one of my best friends..but what he said was really messed up. He grabbed me by the collar and I punched him because I was scared he was going to hurt me (On top of that he was shouting the f* word at my fiance and telling her to stay out of it in a wrong matter, which pissed me off). He didn't hit me(I don't know if it's because I hit him or not) but he got mad enough to say he was leaving and stomped away. He came back to apologize, but while he was apologizing he continued to call me names (He was pretty calm, but it was still pretty messed up).
I'm really mad at him.. and I don't know what to do. I know it must be hard to give advice in a situation you don't know so much about.. But I'm totally at a loss. We both probably over-reacted.. but I still can't believe he would say these things about me... What should I do? What would you do?
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people overreact when it involves partners or the opposite sex in general and when you're friends it means they know the things to say that will truly hurt you. people do say things they don't mean when they've been drinking but there is usually something deeper rising to the top as weel. what i mean is that it doesn't come from nowhere. i would suggest that you speak to him, i know thats lame advice but its the only thing to do. a friendship of 5 years isn't worth being thrown away over something like this. also make sure he appoligises to your ex, let him know that was out of order. Maybe what you said did upset number one so ask why and you should probably apoligise for that. Pretty much - TALK to EACH OTHER!!!!
hope it works out
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