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where do I belong?
I really need someone to talk to and need advice. I've been in college for about a week and I'm not enjoying it. Today was a really bad day for me. School doesn't actually start until the first week in september, but I moved in early because of fall sports. We are in preseason right now and its taking up the majority of my time. My roommate is one of my friends. I've known her for 5 years and we play on the same fall sport, so we pretty much see each other every minute. We get along okay... We don't hate each other but there are some things I don't like about her. She is boy-obsessed- meaning she already has a boyfriend but is already flirting with the football team and getting guys numbers and possibly hooking up with them later. She doesn't really respect me because one night it was 3am and she couldn't sleep so she turned the lights on, watched tv, and skyped with a friend.. while i was trying to sleep. We still get along but I kinda wish I had a different roommate. But I admit its nice to know someone in my college.
There are just so many things going on right now that make me feel bad.. my boyfriend won't return any of my calls. He was supposed to pick me up and go to the mall today (since it was my only day off from practice) and he was 2 hours late and didn't bother to call and tell me that. I had to wait for him. Another thing is that I just feel so lonely. My fall team isn't too close with me. There are some cliques/groups starting to form on the team and I really don't like that. Nobody on the team really matches my personality. Most people on the team are party freaks. They drink and stay out late and hook up with guys. Its not my personality at all and i really don't want to be around them outside of the sport. But it makes me upset that I'm not really good friends with any of them. I really don't know what to do.
I've considered looking into a therapist because I honestly feel like I have nobody to talk to about my feelings. I tend to keep my feelings bottled up. I can't talk to my parents about it because they live in a different country (europe) and its long distance which is expensive to call. I don't have a car so I can't leave. I just really wish I had someone close to talk to. Oh and I can't really talk to my boyfriend about these issues because he says i'm weak sometimes and he says I need to toughen up. I'm scared to talk to him about stuff like this because I don't want him to think i'm a little baby. I just really don't know what to do. I'm not enjoying myself. I'm homesick, lonely, and just exhausted. What do I do??
Also, i'm not very outgoing so its kind of hard for me to make friends. I also have trouble finding the right friends.
thank you.
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Well, everyone pretty much feels out of place on their first day of college.
I felt the same way. The thing is to put a smile on your face and just be friendly. You are going to see that your type will start to gravitate toward you naturally. You are not alone honey and you are not weak. You are just in a new place and feel lost, but that's only for now.
When you get out there and start meeting new people, you will also start meeting men who are actually there for you and who don't find you weak.
Get out there and have fun, live life, make new friends and date date date!!!!!!
Life is too short to spend it mopping in your room. Get out and start living!!!!!!!!!
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Wow! You pretty much just described me! I know how hard it is to be around people that lack morals. (Drinking, partying...) I'm not religious myself, but if you are, try to meet some people at church (or another place of worship). I'm not saying every person that goes to church is a quality person, but it's worth a try. Also, try volunteering with little kids at the YMCA. You'll probably meet some nice people doing the same thing you're doing. Good luck!
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omygod i read this a i could have sworn i wrote it myself. Ive been in college for a week as well and i call home everyday crying my eyes out because i hate it so much. my roomate is a very nice person. However, shes the same as yours. If he's not a male then she doesnt even want to have a conversation. It drives me crazy. She also skyped one of her friends at 3 am as well........really pissed me off. I'm not outgoing eigther. Ill be at a party and will probably end up sitting on the couch drinking a water bottle or something. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Dont keep stuff bottled up because soon it will explode everywhere in a big ugly mess that will take forever to clean up. Im right there with you on everything :)
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I know exactly how you feel im starting school in 2 weeks and im moving out as well but on my own this is my first year in college and im extremly nervous because this college is 4 hours away from my hometown my parents are sending me to this college because apparently its the best one around us i dont know anybody and im very anti social so i know how you feel but i think the best way to deal with it is go around campus and just look around see the type of people that go there and try to make some new frends maybe join a few clubs or try to talk to the people on your team more get to know them it might seem like you have nothing in common but you might once you get to know them more. Hope this helps :)
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