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Okay so lately me and my ex boyfriend(we are basically back together but I keep telling him no because my family or friends arent ready to accept him back into my life) have been growing kinda distant. Its not my doing and Ive been getting really emotional over it all. He just moved a few states away but weve done long distance for more than a year. Its like the more I try the less he does. He still says he loves me and wants to be with me for a really long time but im just not feeling the love really. He says its all in my head and nothing is wrong but I just dont know. For example, last night I tried talkiing to him about it and telling him that I was upset and asked if we should see other people. He was like do whatever you want. And I got upset and was like wow do you even care if I leave? And he said that he does and he still loves me but hes tired of me asking the same question over and over. But he doesnt call very much and barely texts me back. I know hes always been bad with the phone but we are back to long distance so he should be dying to talk to me like before. What Im scared of is pushing him away by being too clingy but I dont want him to forget about me either. If anyone knows a way that I could win over his heart again or feel better about this because maybe it really is in my head. I mean it is the first few days of him living away from home but when I first moved away last year I loved talking to him and telling him about my adventures.
Another problem is that I feel completely dependent on him. I really want to fix it. It might be the main reason we are fighting...because I keep wanting more and more. I just really want to be loved and feel like I still make him happy. Hes so focused on boxing and stuff that he seems to always be too tired for me. I know for a fact he isnt cheating on me because hes not the type at all. I really want to feel okay and not so freaking pathetic without him. Please someone help me and give me some good advice about all of this. I dont want to lose him but I dont want to keep being upset. (link)
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Well,first of all, I don't know what he did that created the distance in your relationship or has you so emotional. Nevertheless, there is hope for you.
The first thing you have to do is start creating a life for yourself that includes fun, friends and anything that can uplift you. That includes your appearance, mind etc.
You can start working out, joining a group etc.
Hang out with friends and actually enjoy everything that you are doing.
The next thing you must do is stop worrying so much about the relationship with him. Stop putting all the weight on him to love you. When a man loves you he does what he can to make you happy. Let go of the pressure and lighten up a bit. It is comming off to him as desperate and needy. No woman wants to be seen that way to any man. It's a sure sign that you are insecure and that translates to a man that he doesn't have something special or sought after.
Enjoy your life and you also don't need his permission to date. Go out on dates and have fun. I am not saying to go out and have sex, but go out and enjoy the company of others. Deep down inside you would like for him to tell you not date other guys and step up and show more interest, but that's not going to happen if you don't actually do it.
Your life should not revolve around him and that is what is turning him off.
I will let you in on a little secret about men. They always want to feel like they are trying to get you. They love a challenge and if he has a needy, desperate woman, he will move onto the next woman who is more elusive and mysterious.
One tip for you is to never tell him about your dates, never try to brag about your new life. Do it because you enjoy doing it and your new, carefree and confident aura will start to make him interested and he will wonder if he is making a big mistake by loosing you.
Make this man work for you honey!!!
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I'm 12 in a half and I lost all my virginity to my boyfriend, he's 15.My bestfriend said that losing my at my age is really bad.I don't think its that bad that i'm not a virgin anymore.Is it bad i'm not a virgin at 12.Most of the time I have sex with him. My friend says I should tell my parents i've had sex. Should I tell my parents? (link)
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Well, I am not your mom, but I would be dissapointed in you. Twelve is way to young and I do feel you made a big mistake. First of all, why are you dating at 12? And why are you dating a 15yr old.
I think you need to tell your mom before you wind up pregnant or get a STD.
This is definately not a good thing. Keep what you did a secret. Other girls will label you as a dirty girl, so talk to your mom before you ruin your life.
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most of the times when i smoke weed i dont feel anything.
how do you smoke? do you inhale all the smoke? (link)
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It's not worth finding out. It's pure crap and a total waste of time.
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Im 15 and a female and I have been worried about losing my virignity. I dont plan on it any time soon but its always been at the back of my mind. My first concern is "popping my cherry".
I know i bleed when this happens, but how much do you bleed? How long? and Why do you bleed? Does it hurt? I would feel embarrased if i bleed all over the guys sheets.
Second is the pain:
does it hurt that bad? did you cry when you lost it? How bad is the pain? and how can i make it less painful? I dont want to cry when he enters me.
Thx for advice (link)
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Well, hopefully by now you haven't made the descion to break your virginity. It does hurt and at 15 I dont think it's a good idea.
I lost mine at 18, but still wish I had waited.
Only do this when you are complety ready and dont have any one pressure you, because the ones that pressure are never worth it.
Focus on school, it is hard enough without throwing complicated issues like sex in the mix.
Trust me, it can become very complicated and alot of emotions involved.
I would suggest that you wait at least until college. There is no rush. When you loose your virginity, you are just another girl in a sea of ordinary women. Dont be ordinary, be extraordinary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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OK so Im 15 and female. Im still a virgin but when I masterbate I end up squirting, as people put it. But its only like every other time. So my first question is:
1)What does it mean?
2)What am I squirting? Am i peeing? How do i tell if i am peeing or squirting?
3)Does this turn guys on? What about girls?
4) How do I stop doing it?
Thx for all advice (link)
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It's normal, but women who experience it are usually a big turn on to men.
Don't worry about it. You will make some man very excited when you do decide to have sex, but no rush to have sex. Life can be wonderful with or without sex. The longer you keep your virginity, the better you get at weeding out the guys that don't deserve you.
Keep up the good work!!!!!
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Okay, Ive been with my bf for about 2 years now and its been a rocky romance. We actually broke up in May and haven't officially gotten back together because my family and friends would freak out and we wanted to build a relationship from the ground.
I really love this kid. But he is horrible with the phone. Last night he said he was going to call me, and when I tried texting him asking if he was going to call he never responded. This makes me really anxious and upset cause I always feel like he is just going to leave.
We would be doing long distance and there are plenty of guys where I am living. The only thing is...I am completely hung up on him but am tired of not being appreciated as much. I dont want to threaten to leave anymore because it just ends up us talking again and him professing his love for me.
Normally, I would say this guy isnt really interested since I have to bug him to respond sometimes. But its the weirdest thing because if I just stop trying or get mad, he starts talking to me like crazy and saying how much he loves me and how he really wants to marry me one day.
Ive tried saying we should just have a more casual relationship so that I dont feel so alone, but he immediatly ignores it and says he would never go for that. So i know its not just the sex.
Basically, I am feeling anxious because he never called me last night or responded to my 3 texts. The last message I got was at 930 with him saying "Can we talk at 10 Im sorry Im at walmart with my mom school shopping and I didnt hear my phone. Im sorry I ignored you :[" Now its 1230 the next day and I still havent heard from him. Im terrified that since hes moving into his apartment maybe he will meet someone new or not have time for me.
Please just help me either calm my anxiety or give some advice how I can not freak out and think hes leaving when I dont hear from him for a day. He always ends up calling sometime or another but I just get upset :[ (link)
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This guy likes you, he doesn't love you. He knows that you are in love with him, so he toys with you.
He has won your heart and you are no long a challenge. Become a challenge. Stop texting him, stop making the effort, go out and have fun, date other guys and do things that make you better.
Excercise, go places, spend time with friends.
Create an exciting life not centered around him and he will want to be in it. Men are turned off by women who sit around waiting for their call all day. In some cases, they move on to girls who are more of a challenge. Girls who actually have fun and enjoy life, not girls who spend their lives obsessing or thinking about them.
I think you know what you need to do.
P.S.
When you are on a date or with your friends, dont answer his calls. Let him try you until he gets you, but only after you are done having fun!
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okay i found out that this guy i've been sleeping with has been sleeping with this other girl who is married. she has just recently had a baby and told me last night - i'm the only one that knows other than the guy we've been sleeping with - that the baby could be this guys, her husbands or her mothers partner. thing is, i know the husband, well i know him to talk to but not really that well; should i tell him that his wifes a slut and the kid might not be his?(in a nicer way obviously) (link)
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This is actually not your business and you should let her do the talking.
YOu should give her the ultimatum that either she tells him or you will.
You should not be responsible for breaking up her marriage. Let her tell him.
If she doesn't do it in a set time frame, let her know that you are going to tell him.'
He deserves to know, but only if she's not woman enough to confess her wrong.
And loose the guy you've been sleeping with, he sounds like a scum bag. Sleeping with a married woman and not using protection. I think you deserve better than him.
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We are both 17 about to be 18 and i'm not sure what he means. I have been friends with this guy since I was in second grade. He has always been like a brother to me, We have never dated or done anything. Hes always nice to me. He helps me when I'm in trouble, but i'm not a bad peron who gets into trouble either, so what did he mean he wanted to teach me about life? (link)
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Why not just ask him.I am sure he will explain.
He may think you need to toughen up a bit or he could be refering to teaching you a thing or two about sex.
In either case, you wont really know until you ask him.
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hi! female, 18. soo i need serious help. i have had a serious issue with food for about the last 5 months. it started when i became very self conscious about my body and i went on a very calorie restricted diet and lost about 30 pounds then i gained it all back. i am very embarrassed to talk to anyone about it. i binge eat a lot and when im done i feel awful and guilty and ashamed. i have been able to maintain my weight by working out and starving myself after a binge. i know this is very unhealthy but i have no idea what to do. food is seriously controlling my life and im scared its going to get worse when i got to college and it will affect my sports. pleasee help :( (link)
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I am battling this right now, but I have found a way to control it. I recently lost a tonne of weight from a well known diet and have done it before and gained it all back and more.
This time I kept it off, but it is not always easy.
What I do is lots of excercise, mostly jumping rope or lifting weights. The weight drops off with jumping rope, especially in your hips and thighs and even tones your stomach.
I have found a trick that really works to keep my hunger at bay and it's sipping water with lime/lemon sqeezed in it. It cuts your appetite and is better for you than sipping a soda.
I eat small meals about 4 times a day and I can't believe that I am actually full. I nibble on low fat/no fat cheese when I get hungry or a granny smith apple.
The best thing of all is eating about 5-8 unsalted almonds when you have a real hunger pang and in minutes it gone.
Try my tips and see for yourself. I have a ferocious appetite and have battled with my weight all my life, but this time I am winning the battle of the bulge.
You can do it to!!!!!
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I really need someone to talk to and need advice. I've been in college for about a week and I'm not enjoying it. Today was a really bad day for me. School doesn't actually start until the first week in september, but I moved in early because of fall sports. We are in preseason right now and its taking up the majority of my time. My roommate is one of my friends. I've known her for 5 years and we play on the same fall sport, so we pretty much see each other every minute. We get along okay... We don't hate each other but there are some things I don't like about her. She is boy-obsessed- meaning she already has a boyfriend but is already flirting with the football team and getting guys numbers and possibly hooking up with them later. She doesn't really respect me because one night it was 3am and she couldn't sleep so she turned the lights on, watched tv, and skyped with a friend.. while i was trying to sleep. We still get along but I kinda wish I had a different roommate. But I admit its nice to know someone in my college.
There are just so many things going on right now that make me feel bad.. my boyfriend won't return any of my calls. He was supposed to pick me up and go to the mall today (since it was my only day off from practice) and he was 2 hours late and didn't bother to call and tell me that. I had to wait for him. Another thing is that I just feel so lonely. My fall team isn't too close with me. There are some cliques/groups starting to form on the team and I really don't like that. Nobody on the team really matches my personality. Most people on the team are party freaks. They drink and stay out late and hook up with guys. Its not my personality at all and i really don't want to be around them outside of the sport. But it makes me upset that I'm not really good friends with any of them. I really don't know what to do.
I've considered looking into a therapist because I honestly feel like I have nobody to talk to about my feelings. I tend to keep my feelings bottled up. I can't talk to my parents about it because they live in a different country (europe) and its long distance which is expensive to call. I don't have a car so I can't leave. I just really wish I had someone close to talk to. Oh and I can't really talk to my boyfriend about these issues because he says i'm weak sometimes and he says I need to toughen up. I'm scared to talk to him about stuff like this because I don't want him to think i'm a little baby. I just really don't know what to do. I'm not enjoying myself. I'm homesick, lonely, and just exhausted. What do I do??
Also, i'm not very outgoing so its kind of hard for me to make friends. I also have trouble finding the right friends.
thank you. (link)
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Well, everyone pretty much feels out of place on their first day of college.
I felt the same way. The thing is to put a smile on your face and just be friendly. You are going to see that your type will start to gravitate toward you naturally. You are not alone honey and you are not weak. You are just in a new place and feel lost, but that's only for now.
When you get out there and start meeting new people, you will also start meeting men who are actually there for you and who don't find you weak.
Get out there and have fun, live life, make new friends and date date date!!!!!!
Life is too short to spend it mopping in your room. Get out and start living!!!!!!!!!
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Hello, hopefully I can get a fast reply - it is needed. I've recently broke up with my girlfriend, the only thing is, this is a long distance relationship, she lives VERY far away from me... anyway, I dumped her because she has become far too obsessive, I can't talk to any girls in real life or online, if I do then that means I am automatically cheating on her... she is emotionally blackmailing me because I no longer want her... I can't get in touch with her family so yeah. :/ /Please help? (link)
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Move on and don't let her get to you. Find a girl with more self esteem. Women with low self esteem are usually very jealous and can make really bad partners in the long run.
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I am falling in love with my best friend, Josh. He is a senior and I am a junior. We go to the same school, talk on the phone constantly, and we've been hanging out more often. A while ago he was going to date someone and I confessed my feelings for him and so he decided to give me a chance. I was overjoyed... But now he's just so confusing. First he told me he wanted to hang out more and we're doing so (he's coming over tomorrow, too!) and then he told me he doesn't want to rush into anything because his last relationships went so fast and it wasn't his doing and he wants to take it slow. I can't wait any longer... I want to be with him so badly... I am respecting and understanding his decision, since I want a stead relationship too... But I am scared to show him my real feelings since he is holding off the relationship. I'm scared he'll be slow in taking the next step in making us official... I have liked him for a long time and I don't know what to do/think. (link)
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Don't rush things, you will only get hurt. If you move too fast and he changes his mind, you may be really crushed emotionally. Have fun with your friends, work out, find things to do and improve yourself in some way. Don't make him your entire world. It will only make him more afraid. If you have other guys interested in you, there's nothing wrong with going out on dates. It would allow you to think more clearly and also take your mind off of him until he comes around. Hey, if he sees you have a life, he will definately want you in his.
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