Member Since: August 23, 2011
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Last Update: September 3, 2011
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i'm 18 years old and I haven't had feelings for a guy for about 5 months. I watch all these romantic movies and shows and I want a relationship. I've had a couple chances but once I went on a date with them I had no feelings for them. I liked the chase and once they had feelings for me I wanted nothing to do with them. The last boy I liked I had butterflies in my stomach whenever I thought about him or whenever I talked to him. I tried talking to my best friend, telling him that I didn't have any feelings for any boys but that I wanted a relationship. He thought I was trying to tell him I'm a lesbian or bi. I know I'm not a lesbian because I like guys, but I'm not sure if I'm completely straight, even though I've never had feelings for a girl. I was wondering if the reason I haven't liked a boy is because I also like girls, but I don't know if I like girls because I've never had any feelings for them. PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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So im in the same boat. I'm 18 and have never had a boyfriend. Mainly because I've never had any attraction to a guy before. I know im straight because i like looking at guys but theres nothing ever........there. Yes it might be because you haven't found that right person yet, or because maybe you're realllyy picky. You could also have a fear of commitment. It's more common thn people think. Theres really no way for anyone to tell you what to do because everyone is their own person. No on can tell you what you feel inside or what's going through your head. You can always go see a counsler. I know i have an it's helped a bunch because they really try to walk you through things. Just keep looking around and don't get discouraged. It's looks like we'll be figuring this out at the same time haha. Keep your head up. I hope this helps.
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I really need someone to talk to and need advice. I've been in college for about a week and I'm not enjoying it. Today was a really bad day for me. School doesn't actually start until the first week in september, but I moved in early because of fall sports. We are in preseason right now and its taking up the majority of my time. My roommate is one of my friends. I've known her for 5 years and we play on the same fall sport, so we pretty much see each other every minute. We get along okay... We don't hate each other but there are some things I don't like about her. She is boy-obsessed- meaning she already has a boyfriend but is already flirting with the football team and getting guys numbers and possibly hooking up with them later. She doesn't really respect me because one night it was 3am and she couldn't sleep so she turned the lights on, watched tv, and skyped with a friend.. while i was trying to sleep. We still get along but I kinda wish I had a different roommate. But I admit its nice to know someone in my college.
There are just so many things going on right now that make me feel bad.. my boyfriend won't return any of my calls. He was supposed to pick me up and go to the mall today (since it was my only day off from practice) and he was 2 hours late and didn't bother to call and tell me that. I had to wait for him. Another thing is that I just feel so lonely. My fall team isn't too close with me. There are some cliques/groups starting to form on the team and I really don't like that. Nobody on the team really matches my personality. Most people on the team are party freaks. They drink and stay out late and hook up with guys. Its not my personality at all and i really don't want to be around them outside of the sport. But it makes me upset that I'm not really good friends with any of them. I really don't know what to do.
I've considered looking into a therapist because I honestly feel like I have nobody to talk to about my feelings. I tend to keep my feelings bottled up. I can't talk to my parents about it because they live in a different country (europe) and its long distance which is expensive to call. I don't have a car so I can't leave. I just really wish I had someone close to talk to. Oh and I can't really talk to my boyfriend about these issues because he says i'm weak sometimes and he says I need to toughen up. I'm scared to talk to him about stuff like this because I don't want him to think i'm a little baby. I just really don't know what to do. I'm not enjoying myself. I'm homesick, lonely, and just exhausted. What do I do??
Also, i'm not very outgoing so its kind of hard for me to make friends. I also have trouble finding the right friends.
thank you. (link)
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omygod i read this a i could have sworn i wrote it myself. Ive been in college for a week as well and i call home everyday crying my eyes out because i hate it so much. my roomate is a very nice person. However, shes the same as yours. If he's not a male then she doesnt even want to have a conversation. It drives me crazy. She also skyped one of her friends at 3 am as well........really pissed me off. I'm not outgoing eigther. Ill be at a party and will probably end up sitting on the couch drinking a water bottle or something. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Dont keep stuff bottled up because soon it will explode everywhere in a big ugly mess that will take forever to clean up. Im right there with you on everything :)
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