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is he too old for me? am i too young for him?
my boyfriend turns 17 soon and im only 13 what should i do????
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I'm sorry you don't. Like my answer but you rating tells me I'm right and your parents are not aware of the age difference. Your playing with fire and too immature to realize it. I hope I don't find myself reading in the future that I have reason to say I told you so. Talk to your parents before you get physically harmed.
Sometimes a number is just a number, sometimes age is just a number. In your case the numbers can add up to big trouble for your boyfriend.
I have a lot of trouble with a boy who looks to date a girl 4 to 5 years younger than him when the ages are as young as you two. If you were 23 and he was 27 I would say forget about the numbers and enjoy life.
At your age there is something definitely wrong here. It is my thinking he is out to take advantage of you because of your young age. My feeling is that he feels he can get from you or force you to give him what he is unable to get from girls closer to his own age. That being sex.
This is very wrong. You are not old enough to consent to sex and he is very close to being charged with statutory rape just by being with you. If your parents know how big an age difference there is between you I am surprised they are allowing you to see him.
If you were my daughter I would be telling this young man to stay away from you or he will be talking to the police. I'm pretty sure your father would be telling him the same thing if he knew.
To answer your question: Tell your father that a 17 year old boy is trying to date you and your not sure what to do. Let dad handle it from there.
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The thing Punkie seems to be missing in her answer is one important thing...
Whether people want to acknowledge that age is "just a number" there IS such thing as legal and illegal. I have read numerous stories about how people get charged with statutory rape and many are forced to register as a sex offender. Reality is, Someone who is 16,17,18 years old are mostly looking for nothing but sex this IS what the world mostly revolves around these days and it seems to be a new daily hobby with the younger generation.
Let me ask you a question: You don't at all find it weird that someone 17 years of age would date someone as young as 13?? Well, Despite your answer possibly being a No.....There are a few things wrong with it. You may not want to accept it nor hear it but the law is the law...
In many states someone is not legally able to consent to sexual intercourse if they are under the age of 16. Statutory rape IS a law and in many cases it IS a very serious charge. My best advise is to date someone your own age not someone who will legally be an adult in another year or so.
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Over the 4 and a half years on this website there have been a lot of questions about being too old or young for someone, and I think I'm finally coming to a conclusion.
Life is life. You'll make mistakes and regrets. You'll accomplish some things, fail at others, and succeed in your own way. You'll meet people, make friends, lose friends, love people and lose people.
If you don't think he's too old, and you don't think you're too young, then I think it's fine. If you feel uncomfortable with it, or if you feel like maybe he is too old or you're too young, then you should really think about whether you should be in this relationship.
If you decide to stay with him and it doesn't work out, that's okay. Sometimes that happens in life. You'll meet new, amazing people and have more relationships in the future.
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