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My mom sides with her husband and I feel like she doesn't love me anymore
She acts Like im invisible.. I will Clean and she wont notice. I will get in trouble and she hates me. I hate her Husband. And she Thinks whatever he thinks. But I feel Like she doesnt love me. Please dont Lecture me like yeah she does and all that. Thanks(:
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Hey there,
Aw please don't feel like she doesn't love you. I can understand how you feel as can many. there is nothing more frustrating than doing so much for your parents to get their approval and feeling like all your efforts go un noticed. you are feeling vulnerable and alone a remarriage is always tough.
everyone feels like their mom hates them when they get in trouble but in fact its out of worry love and concern..parents react by screaming at us..its their mechanism. We react by lashing out.
I hope you don't feel like I am lecturing you I'm just trying to help you gain a little more perspective.
Have you ever sat down and talked to your mom?Tell her how you feel? how it makes you feel when she doesn't notice you clean..how you feel pushed out since she re married.. these feelings are totally normal and i'm sure your mom is just too excited and in love..again it doesn't mean she doesn't love you. I'm sure if she knew you were feeling like this she would feel awful.
Talk to her. She's your mom. She will always love you no matter what and even if it might not seem it sometimes you have first place in her heart.
I hope things work out but please talk to her don't bottle up your feelings. I talk to my mom all the time now. We used to fight a lot because we didn't understand how the other was feeling.
I wish you the best of luck.
Much <3
Jess 17/f
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I wish I knew how old you are as it would help me answer you.
First let me say how sorry I am that your mother treats you this way. For whatever reasons your mother has for getting a new husband, I'm assuming he is your step-dad, her responsibilities as a parent doesn't stop.
From what you have written it is hard to say just where your relationship with your mother falls. You have not written that she is smacking you around so it does not appear that you are being physically abused.
You are feeling unloved, which does not meet any criteria for mental abuse that I'm aware of. If mom is giving you a good home, keeping you well fed, seeing to your physical well being and all other things a parent is expect to do for a child, then she is doing the minimum society expects of her.
The fact that mom may not notice you clean the house, does not mean she does not love you. The fact that when you get in trouble she may get mad at you, does not mean she hates you. What it does mean is the fact that you feel this way makes it this way and that is wrong, on her part. No child should feel unloved.
I don't know of any government agency you can turn to for help. I can only suggest a few things you can try. The first thing is to try and get mom alone, maybe a girls day with a trip to the mall. While your with her tell her, calmly how you feel. Then listen to what she has to say.
Is there and Aunt, Uncle, Grandparent you can talk to. IF so talk to one of them and tell them how you feel. Maybe one of them will talk to your mother for you.
Lastly when school opens again, if it has not already done so, talk to a guidance counselor. They may know of some agency that can help you.
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maybe you should sit her down alone and ask to spend time with her. spending more time with her will take her mind somewhat off her husband and this will help build yalls relationship which is where it all starts.
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