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im 15 years old and think im pregnant, i havnt taken a test yet but im late for my period and i dont know what to do, im too scared to tell my mam and ive only told one of my closes friends. im really scared i know i cant have a baby, please help to find out what my choices are without me having to tell my mam.
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You're 15 years old. You are still a baby yourself, and you depend on your mother for many things. Your mother is there to protect you. It is her job, until you are 18 years old, to keep you from harm and make sure you are okay. The fact you are pregnant does not change the fact that she is your mother and is the one person that can help you.
I know it's a scary situation. You should know though, that stress can cause your period to become later. So try relaxing a little. How late are you? If you are more than 2 weeks late and you generally have a regualar cycle, then take a pregnancy test. If it's positive, you have to talk to your mother. She can help you from there.
If you are not comfortable talking to your mother, talk to your school guidance counselor. She can lead you in the right direction, but in the end you will have to talk to your mother. You can't hide it.
Basically you have three options:
1. Abortion. Personally I am against abortion, but it's still one of your options and something to consider if you absolutely feel you cannot go through with the pregnancy. It's important to know though, that going through with this option can be very devastating mentally and emotionally, but sometimes physically as well. Having an abortion can cause infertility, and that's always something to think about when going through with such a big decision. Never think this is a "quick fix" to your problem because it's not. Normally I would advise against this, but I don't know you or your situation.
2. Adoption. I'm much more for this option. You will go through the pregnancy, which I know is something that can be a very scary thought. However you won't have to be a parent. You can continue with school and your future plans without having to worry about having a child. More importantly, you will know your child is well taken care of my a stable family in a stable home. However once again there are many consequences that go along with this decision. I can be physically and mentally difficult to give your child away knowing you will never see them again. If you choose to go through with an adoption, you will have to tell your mom.
3. Keep the baby. This will change your life like you will never believe. At your age, your mother will have to help you with child. There is no other option. You are just too young to handle a child on your own. However the responsibities that will be thrown on you will be out of this world difficult.
Basically, regardless of the decision you make, your best bet is to tell your mother. This is a life altering situation that you simply can't handle on your own. The best thing to do is tell her you need to talk to her. Sit her down, and say "I think" or "I am" pregnant." Depending on if you've taken the test yet. Once this part is over you can feel relief and go on with the decision making with her.
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