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I dont know what else to do.. Please.
Okay I have a problem with my step son. I love him but he is out of control he is 7 almost 8.
Examples:
A large turtle showed up in my grandparents drive way so I hollared for him to come outside and see it. It was a snapping turtle but instead of moving it away out of the drive way he beat it until it died he blew its head off. rocks, bb's , sticks. No one could get him to stop. He also killed some birds the other day and he has no heart about what he did
My son is 4 and I cant get them to get along at all. If they are at my house they argue like brothers get along for the most part. I treat them equal I dont favor mine. They get along here other than the typical kid fighting.
At my mother in laws who has custdy of him ( we would but cant afford to take it to court and fight it. and they have a really good lawyer) he is awful like today. He keep spitting in my sons face and my mother in law would tell him to knock it off or she was going to take him to the house. He would do it again and she wouldnt do anything well my son spit back at him no he shouldnt have but I dont blame him. Well what happen was I watched him spit in my sons face again I walked over there I asked my son to go play by the grage where all the adults were sitting. I asked my step son to not spit in Jays face again. He bawled I didnt say it hateful or anything I just asked him to please stop. I told my mother in law what I had said to him. She said do you ever think jay should get in trouble because he is doing it to. I said Jay has never spit on a person in his life until (my step son) wouldnt quit spitting on him so no i dont feel like jay should get in trouble he should be told its wrong to spit on a person.
My grandfather in law said we need to quit blaming each other and bust both of their butts but I dont agree with that. Am I wrong for feeling this way and what else should I do about this. My step son is way out of control and my mother in law will not help the situation other than let him do what he wants. sorry this is long.
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I am less concerned with the spitting and fighting than I am with your step-sons killing of innocent animals. This is abnormal behavior by any standards. It is actually a personality disorder probably a psychotic type of disorder.
There are no pills or surgery to fix personality disorders. Your step-son needs long term psychiatric care. Even with psychiatric care there is no guarantee his underlying personality will change.
I've just said a terrible thing about someone so young. Unfortunately history has shown that children that do as your step-son is doing turn out to be the Ted Bundy's of this world. This is not a behavior he will grow out of. He is not acting out his anger over the divorce. He needs help, the right kind of help and may even need to be institutionalized for his own good.
The best thing you can do for this child is to do your best to see that he gets the help he truly need and soon. If that requires you to contact child services then do so; it is for his own good.
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Dude, the marriage is over. Your stepson is a sociopath. Unless you want to be known as the man who raised the next Ted Bundy, you need to leave your wife and protect your son from the abuse of her little monster.
I would also recommend counseling for the lot of you. GET OUT NOW!
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