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My friend is mad at me ?
I'm 17 and my friend is 18 and I told her I was pregnant and now she's scared and she started crying. She's threaten to kill me if I have a baby. What can I do to calm her down ?
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Just give her time a space. It's kind of like when you first tell your parents your pregnant and they get mad and eventually (most) parents will calm down.
She's jealous. My best friend got pregnant at 17 and had a baby when she was 18. I got very jealous and mad. I never told her but I was and still am to this day. I'm a year older than my friend which didn't help either. In my case, I wanted to wait to have sex, and get married and have kids. You know the white picket fence American Dream kinda family. When my friend got pregnant, I was extremely jealous. I was older and more mature and I felt I should have the kid because of my responsibility.
I don't think she will kill you. She's just feeling jealousy right now and I think you should just give her some space.
I'm glad my friend didn't have an abortion or give her child away and whenever I see her kid. I love it! But on the inside I'm thinking "Mann, I want one!"
Once you have the baby, she will probably be buying clothes and toys and playing with it. I do, I love my friends kid even though I don't really like the idea of her having a child at 18. But it is what it is.
**So, I just realized the ages and everything. This whole this is probably the SAME exact thing going on as it was with my friend.**
I hope everything works out and good luck with your pregnancy!
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tell her its your problem and she shouldn't be freaking out over something thats clearly your choice.. I'm pro-gay, and pro-abortion. I believe its the mother/couple/individual's decision on who they want to marry or if they want an abortion or not. its not right of her to say she will kill you if you have a baby. Maybe thats her way of saying she cares a lot about you and doesn't think having a baby at 17 is the best decision for you.. Just calm her down and sit down and talk to her. Tell her that whats done is done. You're pregnant and theres nothing she can do about it now. Its your decision on what you wish to do with the baby, and yes she can have her own opinions but that does not mean she should be talking this way. Tell her you still care about her as a friend, and instead of having her "kill you".. tell her that you need her now more than ever. I bet having a baby at age 17 is a really really hard thing to do. remind her that. tell her you need her there for support and help. If she doesn't want to support you, then thats her decision. You do what you want, and let her do what she wants. You both can't control each other's actions. If she decides not to be friends with you anymore, well then life goes on.
Oh and maybe its karma for getting pregnant at 17.. you should have made a smarter choice, or at least been safer... :/
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Your friend threatened to kill you if you have a baby? ..Perhaps suggesting your friend to seek some professional help with do some good?
Your friend may be experiencing some jealousy issues...
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