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Sister hates me

Question Posted Friday May 13 2011, 7:06 pm

things have been rough with us the past few months after a phone convo in which after i stated my weight, she made some rude comments and asked if i felt healthy. later i left an angry message on her facebook and deleted her from my friends list

it's been awhile since all that happened, so i thought maybe things could be forgotten between us.

but i just get the feeling, she really doesn't like me , and in fact, looks DOWN on me.
whenever she calls the house (she lives in another country) she fakely asks how my job search is going, then asks if our mom is there. when my mom isnt there, she quickly gets off the phone, making me afraid to try and make conversation with her.

today i tried messaging her on yahoo messenger, to tell her about some weird job i decided not to take. after a few minutes shes like :p good thing you didnt take that one. i write her some other things, and she just asks me a couple generic questions like "so got any other interviews" then very abruptly, right after i had messaged her something , she writes "got a web cam meeting with liam bbl" [her son] then ceases the conversation.

i felt kind of hurt by this interaction, his ambivalence, and her abrupt "be back later" response.

my whole life i've felt she looks down on me and she's some kind of elitist or something, because she has more friends than me, and i weigh more than her. i feel this is silly for her to think because i am a college student with straight a's and she dropped out of college after one semester to go off to europe to be with some guy she met on the internet, had a baby, got divorced, and went to go live with some other european dude she also met on the internet (abandoned her kid)

i try to be nice, i don't get it. do you think she's just absent minded, or do you think i should just not talk to her from now on

do you think it was kind of rude for her to just say "web cam with liam bbl"

can't talk about this with other people that know her and with whom it would be relevant because they always side with her.

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VoiceofReason answered Monday May 16 2011, 2:02 am:
Kiddo, the number one rule about women such as your friend is, "losers like taking others down with them." The best thing you can do is write her off. She is projecting her frustrations on you and you continuing to absorb that negativity is not good for your mental health. I know that sounds cold, but you gotta take control of your life and stop being such a doormat.

Your weight isn't an issue (God, I wish women would get it through their heads that they are genetically predisposed to have some fat on them and, in fact, a girl with a soft body is more fun to hug, kiss and do the wild thing with than some bony thing with no boobs, butt or hips). Don't obsess on it. Just exercise regularly and you're good to go.

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BalletArtFreek766 answered Saturday May 14 2011, 8:09 pm:
try to be nicer, it pisses mean people off. she sounds totally jealous of you

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