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I feel tension between us what can I do to make things better?
I have a male friend I've known all my life we grew up together. I have had a crush on him since I was 14 but not much happen because ended up moving away from each other. Now we are back in each others lives like in the old days. But whenever we are around it feels a little weird. I know I have a hard time talking to him because I like him and I'm trying hard to impress him and I dont know what to say or do when I'm around him. But it seems like he has a hard time talking to me too but hes not a shy person. He is very out going and social. So I was wondering why he is this way towards. I feel some sort of tension. I want to know how to make things more comfortable between us. What should I do?
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There are two things going on here:
1. He is picking up on your nervousness around him, which has only furthered the insecurity he may be feeling.
2. He is clamming up because he doesn't want to day anything idiotic and turn you off.
Solution: Next time you meet him just start touching him and tell him how much you like being around him. If you are sitting next to him, put your head on his shoulder. You can also have a friend approach him about whether he thinks you're relationship material.
I think he does want to be with you but doesn't want to risk turning you off by coming out and saying so. You're just going to have to be more aggressive than you have been until now.
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In my experiences it can be two things.
1) It's been a while since you two have been around one another. Sometimes it's just difficult to return to that close friendliness. It's weird remembering that you two were so close once and that you aren't now, and just that can cause tension. This kind of tension has to resolve naturally, and it will. It's all about making an effort to be around each other and to learn to trust each other again, but without having to force yourself to try and be the close friends you once were.
2) There's something on his mind. It might be personal and completely unrelated to you, or it might be something involving you. I would suggest asking him if anything is on his mind, or if anything is wrong. Even if he says "nothing" and you have a feeling there might be something wrong, then just give it time. Eventually he will tell you.
Or alternatively, maybe he likes you?
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