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more exciting?
me and my boyfriend have been together for half a year now and things are changing a bit. usually we only see eachother over the weekend cause he lives far away but recently we've been seeing eachother every day and ever since we dont get along too much anymore and it seems like he doesnt care about me as much cause things got "boring" so we decided to only see eachother over the weekend again but what else can i do to spice the relationship up a bit and make it more exciting like it was in the beginning?
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This is the dating conundrum. Being out on dates with someone is totally different than what happens when you are with them everyday or 24/7. I'm afraid your relationship is pretty much doomed. You aren't as compatible as you thought.
The thing is that when you see each other only once or twice a week there is some build up and anticipation. But when you see them everyday it becomes more routine. You can't have a big event date seven nights a week unless you are rather wealthy and more creative than average. Plus that is just a lot of pressure to put a guy under.
So think about this before you say yes to a marriage proposal.
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Theres lots of things to make it more interesting!
Buy a present now and again, reduce contact so theres more to talk about when you do speak.
You could join clubs so he can see you being succesful and he'll want you more.
You could visit him by suprise sometime or send him a text if he's about to have a really important meeting.
You could (if you're at this stage yet) kiss him suddenly when your shopping or something, or suprise him with theatre/concert tickets.
One thing I would say though, is that if you do all this and he's having the time of his life with you-but you're not getting anything back from him, i'd THEN talk to him about the relationship. Talking first prevents many breakups from occuring. Good Luck :)
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dont just "talk to him". Thats not being specific.
The cause of a relationship of getting boring is too much contact. Like you said, everything was great when you only saw each other every weekend. This is why highschool relationships tend to fail, because the guy and girl breathe the same air, every second, or every hour, of every single goddamn day.
Distance is always good because its more special whenever you meet, and you get reminded of what you really have.
First, talk to him, yes. But let him know this:
when you guys talk, does it seem like you are talking to him as you would with your brother? or your dad? your best friend? That is the problem. You guys are getting too comfortable to the point where its no fun anymore. talk to him about boyfriend/girlfriend type stuff. And know when it gets too comfortable. Hope i helped :D
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There are many ways to spice up a relationship. One thing though and in my opinion it is one of the more important aspects in a relationship is talk to your significant other. If you feel it's getting boring, then let him know. Tell him you want to try new things. One way though I have heard many older women say about their relationships is to think about your boyfriend the same way you did when you first met him. How did he make you feel then? What was it about him that caught your attention? Also, I hate putting sad things in advice, but sometimes it happens, and it's neither ones fault, but relationships get boring because one, the other, or both aren't that into said relationship. But The best thing to do is talk to him, honesty and being open with each other is important in all relationships.
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