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im 13 and my boyfriend wants sex?
IM 13 and my boyyfriends 13 aswel. He wants to show me how much he loves me and he said he would never presurre me.
He has had sex before.
Im sure im ready. im just scared that its going to hurt.
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Here is the thing:
Given the rampant immaturity of junior high boys, your relationship with him is not going to last very long. Almost nobody marries their junior high sweetheart. You have a better chance of being struck by lightning and winning the lottery on the same day.
So seeing that, is giving your boyfriend, who is mostly interested in improving his macho rating at that age and "putting points on the board" at that age, your virginity really worth it?
Guys are pretty much genetically programmed for aggression, be it sexual or otherwise. Thus the browbeating you for sex. This will be a good lesson for you in learning to fend him off diplomatically. If he still doesn't take the hint then you have to learn to tell him to go fuck himself. It's all part of growing up.
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Darling it will hurt, but it a pain that i cant describe.
Be careful in you decision 13 is very young and for your boyfriend to have already experienced it is a little scary in my eyes. but do what right for you. best of luck. :)
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well if your boyfriend loves you like he says he does he will be willing to wait, 13 is still a really young age to be thinking about sex yes it will hurt but don't you think you should save your virginity for someone you know that you will have a future with? if guys find out that you lost your virginity at 13 years old they will never ever respect you and it would be hard to find someone thats going to love you for you and if your parents find out that would really tear them apart so think carefully we are just here to advise you, the decision lies in your hands and i personally don't think you are ready i think that you want to give in because you're scared if you don't give your boyfriend what he wants he will leave you so if you choose to be smart and wait then you will see who your boyfriend truly is
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
Grandfather observation: If you were really sure you were ready for sex you would not be writing to us. At the end of my advise I will supply a link to a website I would like you to visit before you decide to have sex.
I'm not going to repeat the lecture I'm sure your mom and dad have had with you about having sex at such a early age. I will say that even for someone like me who has some very liberal views on sex, you are far to young to be thinking of full sexual intercourse.
Your boyfriend on the other hand is thinking much differently than you are. As boys go through puberty the become wired to have sex. They mistake lust for love. Girls rarely mistake lust for love as there must be some form of love in a relationship before they can surrender to such an intimate act as intercourse. To be blunt it is all hormonal for the boy. He needs to release the pent up sexual tension brought on by puberty
Girls experience similar sexual tension brought on by the same hormonal changes going on within their bodies. They just aren't as fast to jump to sexual intercourse as fast as the boys are. I believe this is because it is the girl that has to live with the consequences of the act.
My advise is you to need to learn how to make out first. Tell your boyfriend you might be up to giving him a handjob and maybe work up to a blowjob for now. But your pants and panties stay on. As for your blouse and bra that is your decision. Once your clothes start coming off the chances of you becoming pregnant escalate exponentially.
Just a side note: Condoms are only 85% effective in preventing pregnancy when worn correctly. Operative words here are WORN CORRECTLY.
If it was my place to tell you what to do I would tell you to wait. It is not my place to tell you what to do only to offer advice. My advice is to wait a few years until your older. You can only give your virginity away once. This is a precious gift. You should wait and give it to someone who may become your husband or even long time lover.
This young boy will break your heart as once he has what he wants he will look to conquer another. That is what young boys do. Young boys also can't keep their mouths shut and it will get all over school that you and he did the dirty deed and then you will have a reputation.
How do I know this? I was once 13 myself, I know what I and my friends were like and I doubt anything has changed.
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