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Please help I have nothing left and I want to die
Hi I want to die but I can't bring my self to do it I am crying while I write this message! My girlfriend after 3 years dosent want me anymore I ant got anything with out her I gave up so much and I dnt have anything
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I first want to start off by saying PLEASE DONT HURT OR KILL YOURSELF. I know that when things get really bad in life and you have no one to turn to, hurting yourself can seem like a better option. Its not trust me I have been there. I know what its like to feel all alone and not want to live anymore.
Firs thing I suggest is calling hot line, such as kids help phone - 1 800 668 6868. They have many places you can talk to people can help. But if you dont want to talk directly you could try the website. Here is a link to the suicide part of the website [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
You could also try talking to a doctor, this may be some phsycolodical problem thats causing this. If not then try talking to a parent/teacher/a close friend.
I hope you really reconsider this! Just think of how many people you would devaste other then yourself. Think of how many people love you and would miss you dearly! Also if you ever feel down in the dump about this and even remotely think about killing yourself you can send me an email at cbestudent96@gmail.com
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Hi I was the person who write this and I just want to say thank you so much just for being there I have no1 here to talk to and all off you have helped me very much thank you!!!!
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Please don't kill yourself. Just like anonymous below said I hope you have God in your life. God didn't give you a spirit of hoplessnes. Yes disapointments are their in life but we can overcome it all through Christ who strengthens us. EVERY human life is precious. Pray to God He listens, He cares and He loves you. Also talk to somebody. You've been given a number to call for help, do it. Suicide isn't the answer. It gets better with time and with God.
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I am sorry to hear what you are going through. :-(
I am almost as sorry that I know from experience what this feels like.
Before I say anything else, if you are still feeling like you want to hurt yourself, please call this toll free hotline and talk to one of the caring people that will answer for you:
1-800-273-8255
If you just need to talk to someone, who has had something like this happen, call (number removed after call), which is my home number. You can also reach me on skype under the same username I use here: DangerNerd
Now that we have the contacts out of the way, let me give you the good news:
You will not believe me, right now, but I absolutely promise you that this gets better. The feelings you are having now, are overwhelming, more like crushing, but they do calm down in a shorter amount of time than you would think.
Right now it feels like NOTHING will EVER be ok again. That isn't true.
My wife, now ex, abandoned the family 3 days before our 10th wedding anniversary. This last March 12th makes four years, and I have still never heard a single word from her.
She actually had her computer set up with a queued e-mail set to be delivered later the night she left, but for reasons of me being out looking for her, fearing an accident, and then the internet provider being down in the area, I didn't get to read her e-mail until 5am the following day.
The short version is this: She left with a smile, to go and keep her mom company at a doctor visit, and then they were going to go out to eat.
She was smiles and "see you soon" knowing that she was never returning.
There was no warning, no fight, no argument... nothing. As far as I knew, things were on their way up.
The e-mail, getting back to that, was really something. It made it sound as if she had had a mental breakdown. It was really strange and if you were to read it you would have no choice but the fear the worst for her sanity.
After six months of trying desperately to find her and get her some help, her mother came clean and told me what was really going on.
She wasn't in any danger... She had been planning to leave for years. She went directly from our home to another person's home in another state.
I later discovered that she went directly to a car in her name, a place to live and job that had been arranged for her by the new person she chose to share her life with, and was not only never in any danger, but was living the life she had long dreamed of living with someone else.
While I am glad that she is alive and well, it always saddened me that I had to find all this out 2nd hand. That she didn't ever, after 10 years of marriage, develop enough love for me to call me just once, and tell me what was going on in her own words.
Anyway, four years on now and I only know what I have gathered. I know where she lives, where she works and all that, and have never bothered her in any way.
You know why? Because I didn't make the problem. I wasn't the one that left. If she ever wants to contact me again, I am easy enough to find. Perhaps the guy she met on World of Warcraft will bore her enough that she will give me a call just to say that she is ok, and happy... who knows?
The point of all that was this: She made a decision. Your girlfriend made a decision. There is NOTHING that you can do or say that will change this fact.
I know this isn't what you want to hear. You want to fix things and make it all work out, right?
Sadly, these two didn't want to work things out. If my ex-wife had wanted to work things out, she would have tried talking about things... just ONCE before running off to her new life.
Your girlfriend, she would have tried to work things out if she had wanted it to work. That is the key that would have helped me if I would have grasped it sooner than I did: no matter what I think is going on, the fact is that it just doesn't matter.
Whatever it is that she has going on in her head belongs to her alone. She owns it. It takes two people to try and fix things, and if one of them doesn't want to try... there is nothing the other person can do about it.
This is hard to accept, especially when you have no idea why things went the way they did, but you MUST accept it.
Be prepared to hear something from people you currently consider friends: "Get over it!"
You know... I think there should be a law: Anyone saying that to someone who is grieving should not be allowed to press charges for the thorough beating you lay on them. In fact, if you were grieving the death of a child and someone told you to get over it... which prompted you to send them to intensive care, I don't know if any court would hold you accountable. Grief is grief.
I wanted to tell you this for one reason: You aren't alone. Anyone telling you to get over something like this before you are ready... is either a cold, heartless piece of scum or someone who hasn't had their life completely destroyed, and so can't understand.
You aren't alone. Call anytime. It does get better, I promise. Just hold on for a while and you will see.
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Do not kill yourself! Please. I have thought the same thing many times but dont do it. I really hope you have God in your life. The bible says not to take your own life. Pray! Please, it works cause it healed me. Please pray hard. Everyone has a true love. She wasn't the one. You will find another girl in your life that is you princess and will love you too! I promise your life will get back on track. Just dont end it. Please
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