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I need advice
I have been going out with a guy for seven months and during part of that time he was going through a divorce.I have been very supportive as listener and a help meet. I helped to do school runs cooking and cleaning everything a girlfriend would do.During November he said that he joined a christain dating site and I was ok with it not much of it thinking.On Christmas day I heard via friends that he was going out with a another divocee with two kids, I was devasted. His divorce just came through in December.Now I am hopelessly in love with him and don't know what to do.He has been going out with this woman since Dec 2010. He also know how I feel about him. I can't understand what went wrong, yet I strongly believe I am perfect,being single, good career and he know if he wants me to leave work and take care of his kids, I will do so.He did say to my friend that he needs to explore and date other woman but I don't want to be his trump card, meaning if everything else fails he will run back to me! Pleae advice.
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As awful as it sounds, I think you were the "rebound" girlfriend. It sucks, I know. We've all been there at some point. You need to find a way to move on from this. Obviously, he already has.
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Nothing 'went wrong' here. He doesn't want to be with you. It doesn't matter if you are perfect. You aren't what he wants.
That is the truth, and you need to let it sink in.
You can't earn his love with your care-taking and support. If he does run back to you, it will be your job to realize that and offer only as much support as you want too in light of the fact you cannot expect anything in return.
He's treated you poorly, by allowing you take on the role of 'girlfriend' in his life and not stopping you when it became clear you had feelings for him and were trying to earn his love.
If he comes back, don't return to the old pattern. You already knows how it ends. This man doesn't see you as a life partner - more like the hired help. It is your job to make sure you do not fall back into that role.
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