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Why dont I feel emotions anymore?
Im a 15 year old girl and for some reason i dont really feel emotion anymore, I dont feel sad or depressed. but nothing. Usually i just wear a fake mask of happiness and everyone buys it. they believe im the happiest person ever. I enjoy mimicing peoples expression and studieing what other people do. Its shocking how people are so easily fooled. I dont really understand much of why people get so upset or how they can express emotions so easily without feeling stupid. I dont really care about anything. Especailly my school work. Ive lost complete interest in it, since i no longer feel the urge to do well. They think ive gotten lazy, but i just dont feel the need or push anymore to do well in school. Most advice columbs about realated topics suggest going through your childhood memories but, i honestly cant remember mostly anything thing from my childhood. i cant even remember as far back as a month ago or a week. Its all a blur. The few momories i do have is of pointless interactions between strangers or classmates. thats what all my memories are, pointless blurs of my life. I feel as if im in a dream, as if nothing is real and nothing is really happening. the days just blur together and i just go through it without feeling anything. I dont even reconize myself in the mirror anymore. People would consider me "pretty" and stuff but when i look in the mirror it feels as if what im doing or me myself isnt real. I dont feel "real", nothing feels real. And I honestly dont know why.
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The thing is thou. I dont feel sad. Ive never been the type to feel sad, and i'd rather not go to see a therapist or anything of that. If i did go i probably wouldnt tell them anything. Im not depressed or sad. It just manly feels as if im in an emotion-less dream. Nothing feels like its really happening,JUst like im floating along throu life.
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It sounds like you are dealing with some emotional detachments. Maybe you have been though a divorce(s) in your family or lost someone that you grew a bond with. It might be something that happened to you when you were a good bit younger and you are just now feeling the wounds it caused. Each time we go through the loss of someone or something (maybe even a pet) it can cause us to grow numb and make us feel almost like we don’t care - or think we must not care. It becomes harder to feel close to people or care about things that you once cared about. This can also pin up inside of you and make you feel depressed (even if you put on the happy face for everyone looking). My advise is to write down things that make you happy. Place positive things in your life because believe it or not, when we are already feeling blah about things, it is easy to feed from negative so: no sad music, no sad movies, no sad anything. Heck, put on some fun music in your room and get in front of the mirror and dance, be silly, let it out, cry if you need to. Try to figure out what you may have lost in the past and acknowledge that it may have caused you to have some emotional detachment. Talk to someone about it (even just me or this site if that would help) and make a decision to not allow it to trap you. Tell yourself out loud that you choose to heal from it. Give yourself some credit, trust yourself, believe in yourself - know that you can and will overcome this. You took the first step by posting your concerns on this site, now take the next steps. Being 15 is hard anyways but just push yourself through this time - take time to say positive things to people. When you see that you have put a smile on someone’s face, it will help bring one to yours. Do something good for someone. Go into the inner city or a homeless shelter and help serve food on a Sunday or donate some clothes to someone in need. Rake a yard for an elder person or simply just offer to help someone load or unload their groceries. You will start to feel again and it feels good to help someone in need. Hang in there!
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and hopefully I can help you with this problem.
This is going to sound strange but the fact that you say you feel nothing means you are feeling something. It is a form of depression you are feeling. Most likely caused by puberty and the hormonal changes going on within you.
Back when I was a teenager and when your parents where your age too, we called it going through a phase. Something we and they would grow out of. Statistically they were correct in that 7 out of 10 teenager did. The other 3 continued to flounder and picked up different labels such as lazy.
Today we know better and their is help for what is know called teenage depression. Lets face facts here; who better than today's teenager has earned the right to get depressed, especially the girls. To start with you have all the physical changes going on with your body, then the hormonal changes, the social changes of middle and high schools.
Then there are boys and dealing with there becoming all hands and focuses on one thing. Then there is the fact that more is expected of you. You need to get good grades to get in to a good college. You are a young adult you are expected to act like one.
We are stealing are children's childhoods, of course teenagers are going to get depressed. Who wouldn't? This type of depression is not a mental illness in that it is a chemical in balance of hormones secreted in the brain to control mood. Because of this in some cases medication is used to help us through this and the best doctor to prescribe medication is a psychiatrist because the medication effects secretions in the brain; not because you are crazy.
Talk therapy then helps you sort out the problems, or stressors as they are called that is causing the depression. The therapist helps you find ways to deal with these stressors rather than hide from them which is in essence what you are doing when you say you feel nothing.
My advice: Go see your family doctor, as your are 15 you can do so in total medical confidentiality. Meaning mom or dad can be asked to wait in the waiting room while you and the doctor consult and you are examined. The doctor by law, called HIPPA, must keep your confidence and can only release information with your written permission. This way you can be totally open and truthful with your doctor.
Tell the doctor what you have told us. The doctor will most likely want to do a full physical to rule out any physical causes and screen you for depression. If you are an HMO patient and the doctor decides to prescribe for you and feels an anti-depressant is in order. Ask to be referred to a psychiatrist for the reasons I gave above as well as a therapist. You may have to change therapist several times until you find one you are comfortable with; this is not unusual. You have to be comfortable with your therapist if you are going to be able to talk about the problems causing you stress.
Good luck and write back if you need too.
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hmm,. I've felt something somewhat like this. I think you have lost your excitement and energy for life. I would suggest maybe talking to a professional. I know that that seems like oh no i'm going to a therapist. i must only be crazy to do that. BUT,. I have for my own reasons of getting help threw bad situations. And they really have a way of opening you up pulling out the problem and helping you overcome them.
Hope This Helps
*Jasmine«
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