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I want to help her, but I don't want to be her friend again...
I had this friend freshman year. She was my best friend. We had so many laughs and good times, and we've both been through some tough times. We were great together. But she caused too much drama. Her up and down depression, her negativity, and her promiscuous ways had me fighting a roller coaster of emotions. When I tried to help her, she always closed me out. She was always ordering me around. But the worst problem were the boys. They say you should never end a friendship because of a boy, but she did. She gave me permission to date her ex but yet was still flirting with him and messing around with him while I was with him. That led him to breakup with me several times and he went back to her.
I got over it and then when I was dating someone she'd been rejected by since fourth grade, my ex decided to rub in my face that she was still dating him. I got upset that she didn't tell me and I had to find out from someone else... And school finally came, and we didn't talk for a while. I forgave her but then she just went way too far. She was always sexually all over my boyfriend at the time because she was jealous that I got the guy she's always wanted. I told her off, and we didn't talk. And now, sophomore year, we are not friends. However, sometimes I miss her.
But I remember her shit. She called me a whore that loves "niggers" and I was finally through. I reported her for harassment and told her to her face she has no right to call me a whore. I know for a fact she has slept with more guys than I can even count.
But now I feel bad. She glares, stares, and dirty looks me up and down. But still, she doesn't talk crap about me anymore. She hates me. She's so jealous of me. I don't have any need to talk to her. But now I feel pity for her because her family got evicted from their home, and she has always had a tough time with life and school.
I don't want to be her friend because I pity her, but I just feel bad for all the shitty things I think about her. She's going through so much and I know barely anyone is there for her. In my classes, nobody talks to her. She's always sitting alone while everyone is flocked around me, laughing and having a great time. Sometimes I feel like a bad person for not liking her because she needs someone to talk to that understands her like I used to. I'm not desiring to be her friend again, but I just want to help her.
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i have been through the same thing with one of my friends we dont talk either but what goes around comes around i mean she had this going for herself you deserve to be friends with someone who wont talk about you behind your back and will always be by your side.
i know you feel bad for her but its not your fault its hers she started all the drama between your friendship so she lost your trust. I would maybe forgive her for the past but i wouldnt go and be best friends again because you now no what shes capable of. maybe you could just say hi and bye to her you no be her assicaite. because maybe she just needs a friend and who nos maybe she changed...
hope i helped.
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Honestly it sounds like you are better off to stay away from her. It seems like everything in a competion I knew girls like that in school and thats how it was they wont change. itll be like that for along time its not worth the headache you j ust have to make it threw school date a guy who doesnt go to your school. dont hang out in the sames places. at school dont even look at her just ignore her. shell finally relize you are putting up with her crap and shell move on to the next girl wholl hopefully ignore her and forcer her into getting some help.
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