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What to do about teen getting bullied?
HELP!My 16 yo son had 4 boys MUCH LARGER than him come to my house to beat him up. Luckily he wasn't home. They told him on the bus that's why they showed up. Now he won't ride the bus, doesn't want me to confront them or the parents. He said their finally leaving him alone (I don't know if he's telling me everything), and if I do it will get much worse. One boy who was a friend did this already and fought with him. It was put on the internet and he was mocked at school. I found this all out much after the fact. Now these boys want to fight him because my son called one of them fat playing online a wargame talking smack to eachother. These friends came over and I told me to have my son call him like they wanted to hang out. I am outraged and need to know if this has happened to anyone outthere and what action is the best. Leave it alone because it's dying down? Go meet them and let them know it's not tolerated and have things get worse? Call the cops and have things get worse? HELP!!!!!! My son is very thin and these boys are huge compared to him. What do I do?
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ok so i am 16 also and i have found that (since i am not exactly popular), it doesnt matter what others think of you. i am Christian and am put out just because of that, so i have been physically harmed because of it. besides lifting A LOT what he could do is make sure he doesn't react to what they are doing. another thing he can do is make sure another (larger) friend is there with him. even if this friend is not as large as the other kids pushing your son around, it is helpful because i am 160 pounds and i know that it is possible to make a 300 lbs football player think twice. there is strength in numbers also if alone and no friend is around just make sure that a teacher is there. because chances are the kids are not as serious as they seem and if a teacher is there they will wait till later, the key is that there will not be a later. most of all i would say that it is important that those kids do not get what they want from your son, FEAR! so make sure that they do not get that reaction. praying for ya! God Bless
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Hi, I'm probably old enough to be your father. Hopefully the wisdom of my age will be helpful to you.
You need to report this to the School officials and the Police.
Bullying has become a major topic both in and out of school. One that both school officials and law enforcement are working on correcting and preventing.
Before going to the school principal and law enforcement download the video before it can be destroyed by the bullies. Then make copies of it and take it to the school Principal and leave a copy with him.
Where I live all Middle and High Schools have a Resource Officer; a County Police Officer who Patrols the Schools during the day. The Officers job is multi-faceted in that the Officer is there to keep order and to hopefully prevent trouble before it starts. If your school has a Law Enforcement Resource Officer ask that the Officer sit in on your meeting with the Principal. Also have a copy of the video available to leave with the Officer.
If the Officer ask you to sign a complaint, do so. Your job is to watch out for the well being of your child. Let their parents worry about their children.
I was in a similar position when my son decided to take an elective class in auto motive repair. This class required him to leave his home school for the central vo-tech school. Had I known this class was populated by all the bad apples from the disciplinary school next to it, I would not have allowed my son to take the class.
I had to press charges against a student, who told me "go head, I'll be home before the paperwork is done." Unfortunately for him I was and am very politically active and made sure he was remanded to the juvenile center." It was very satisfying to see him in tears as he was lead away in handcuffs.
I tell you this as you are your sons advocate. You must fight for him. Bullies understand two things; their power lies in their pack and most people will not challenge that power. When challenged the consequences have to be severe enough to make them back down. Your job is to not only challenge the bully but to ensure the Juvenile Justice System works for you in that it seeks to punish while seeking to change the behavior of the bully.
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okay, so i am 18 years old bout to be 19.
School in general was HELL for me.
people used to pick on me alllll the time!
for DUMB little things, or the way i looked at the time.
it is very hard, and it is hard to talk about.
and sometimes you just have to let it die down and the bullies might move on.
ALTHOUGH, I also believe that they need to be confronted if it has gotten this bad!
THAT'S HORRIBLE!
If you think the principle will take SERIOUS action then i would take it there.
sadly, the cops wont do ANYTHING!
people are very cruel, and your son will grow up very strong because of this, i can tell you that, because i have.
Yes, he shouldnt have to go through this... NO ONE should and im sorry for that.
The best thing, if to do what YOU think is best for your kid. Whether he wants you to or not.
The only thing i recommend not to do is confront the kids in person because that will make them be like "ohhh u babyyy you had to get ur mommyyy" just be careful with the actions you take.
I really hope this helped.
This is a very difficult situation, and remind your son that KARMA is a B*tch... this is really true too, because people that bullied me are much worse off now, or had the acne problems that i had, or other MUCH worse problems.
<3 wish you the best, and let me know how it goes.
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