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we kissed and now he sent me a really confusing message =/
im 18/f hes 19/m
so me and my bestfriend kissed the other night, i have massive feelings for him, i dont know how he feels about me though...We've talked about wanting to kiss each other for a while, but he said he wants to take the risk but hes afraid...anywho, we were talking outside and just as i was about to leave he said "i owe you this" and kissed me so sweetly, i was shocked.
that was a week ago, i thought he atleast remembered kissing me until tonight he confessed he remembers seeing my face and the rest is blank. He also said his friends told him he kissed his friend. and he was going on worried that i saw it happen etc etc. i didnt see him kiss this other girl. Then he started to get worried about what i wouldnt tell him, so i flat out told him that he kissed me that night too. he texted back "-____-" and i knew then that he obviously regrets it.. i mean he regretted it with his other friend...anyways we were texting apologizing to each other about it. then he sends me this text
"totes facepalming. it wasnt suposed to happen yet >.< " then he told me to ignore that text, and then i get another text from him saying "ill tell you what i mean by it one day". now im extremely confused. thoughts?
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I think he's backpedaling.
He's into you, but he thinks you're not really into him. You didn't act happy about the kiss, and the other friend thing makes it more awkward, and he doesn't remember it so he has no idea whats going on in your head at this point, but he assumes it's bad and the apologizing probably confirmed it for him.
I agree with Rahzie on the attempt to remain mysterious part. "it wasn't supposed to happen yet" is basically telling you that he's been thinking about it alot, and "I'll tell you what I mean by it one day" is a pretty blatant appeal to your curiosity.
He wants to talk about it and has no idea how to start that conversation, so he's trying to entice you to start it for him, or at least give him a receptive opening.
I favor dramatic approaches, mostly because shocked expressions are priceless. You could just walk up to him, kiss him, and tell him he owes you one again and walk off.
Or you could just talk to him. Risk a little honesty, send him a message that says "I didn't picture it like that either, maybe we should try to get it right this time" or something similarly blatant.
Bottom line, you're both wondering how the other person feels. If you both keep trying to feel each other out you might end up losing interest before you both figure it out. Be a little obvious, see what comes of it. Now that the question's in the air do you really want to spend weeks or months or god forbid years waiting to have it answered?
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He wants you to be confused, and curious and thinking about him. He is using classic ploys to keep your attention focused on him.
That much you can certainly know, even if you can't know exactly what he means.
My advice would be to give him a little distance for a while. He likes you, perhaps he likes you enough to date you. At the moment you can't know, and he's refusing to tell you.
Don't go crazy about it. Take a deep breath. You'll spend most of your romantic life 'not knowing' something or other.
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Only he knows what is meant by that text and his bizarre statement about him one day explaining things to you. You should ask what he means and see what happens. You have a right to know.
Either way he's indecisive and doesn't know what he wants. He also seems to be kissing other people while you are together. That's not good.
I have a hunch that he may be gay having not liked kisses with you or other girls and not comfortable with intimacy or the relationship. That's one theory.
At any rate I would back away from this relationship because he has a lot to figure out and is being too weird and cryptic about things. You don't have time to be jerked around.
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