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Blowjobs and the girl I'm seeing
I'm with this girl who I have been trying to get with for a while. She has on occasion mentioned giving head to other guys in the past nonchalantly, which makes me jealous.
I'm usually doing the work in the bed, and she wont ever finish me off/give me head. We've had sex... but I sort of have a fetish with handjobs/blowjobs... why if she likes me as much as she said give me a blowjob, while shes given other guys blowjobs? I mean, I treat her better than anyone else, I shave down there, take care of my hygiene, and have an average penis.
It bothers me a lot to know that I have to work so hard to get so little when others worked so little to get so much. Can someone help me get over this? or fix this? or advice at all?
It makes me feel like i'm not worth so much because she wont put forth the effort to please me anywhere near the level she has other guys.
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Believe it or not maybe she wants to wait and not do everything sexually at once because she cares. Maybe she feels like since you've already had sex she has to save something to make the relationship last longer. By initiating that she's given other guys head is maybe a cue to you that she can/will do it eventually. Are you sure you treat her better than anyone else? This could mean anything really your best bet would to just talk to her about it. If you're having sex with her it shouldn't be hard to confront her about it.
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I think you shouldn't be worried about this girl giving you a bj - it's absolutely ludicrous to think that woman like doing this in the first place - it's utterly distasteful - you apparently look at too many sexual-oriented magazines; in the second place, it's immature to think that you should be getting bj'd every time you have sex - you mention "finishing you off," - possibly she doesn't want to "finish you off" that way - possibly she'd actually like you to "finish" with HER........Stop obsessing about bj's. It's not worth the anguish. They're a dime a dozen...or should I say $20.00 a dozen. Most girls only do this either for money or because they're trying to impress you. It's NOT something most girls like doing - trust me.
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well if she knows that you know about her past experience then maybe she feels that if she does give you head it's gonna remind you of her past and she maybe feels that you will think that that's all she's good for but maybe you should try speaking to her don't ask her directly that could be awkward try asking in a way when you both are already having sex that's when people tend to give in easily and if she does then after that speak to her and assure her you've forgiven her for her past and if she's comfortable blowing you
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You mention putting forth effort like it's supposed to help. In a relationship (any relationship, not just romantic) there is a giver and a taker. In romantic relationships in particular, if a girl doesn't particularly like giving blowjobs, she might do it if she thinks needs to in order to keep a guy because she is the giver she might. If you are already putting forth all the effort into the relationship, you are the giver and she knows it. Just my cynical opinion.
Oh, and how far someone is willing to go with you sexually is actually a pretty bad gauge of how much they like you.
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