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Living together in college
So my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and we go to the same college. We were thinking about livin together in a townhouse this semester (we are sophomores) but it didn't work out. Do you think it is too young to live with a significant other in college, like maybe next year in an apartment off campus?
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Not at all. I moved in with my fiance when I was 19, and we're still together almost 5 years later.
It will be difficult. You're both going to have to get used to each others' bad habits which may be concealed when you're living separately. Maybe he refuses to do the dishes until they need a haircut, or you clip your toenails in front of the TV. It's harder than you might think to get past those little differences.
Separating out chores and financial responsibilities, as well as following a budget, is very difficult. Sometimes 50/50 isn't the fair way to do things, as you will learn. Before moving in together, you should ask a few questions.
- How will rent/utilities be split up? (should whoever earns more pay more?)
- How will you handle shared expenses like furniture or groceries?
- What sort of budget will you guys follow?
- How will you maintain your own separate lives even though you're spending most of your time together?
- Who will do what chores, will they rotate and are there any chores that anyone won't do?
And any others you can think of. If you can get this stuff out of the way before moving in together, it should be smoothish sailing.
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There's nothing wrong with living together and it will give you an opportunity to learn about each other in a new way. This can either get you closer or make you realize that this might not be the best situation.
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It all depends on your relationship. If you fight a lot it is probably not a good idea. Living together even if you not married feels like marriage. You really no each other when you live together. Its a big step in a relationship you both have to decide if you two are ready.
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