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Another Sexually Frustrated Teen
I'm an 18 year old female with nothing on my sexual resume. I've never been kissed and the furthest I've gone with a guy is an awkward pat on the back. I am too the point where sex is just about all I can think about. I wanted to wait, and save myself for the right moment. Now all I want (or it really feels like need) is someone to just hold me, touch me, anything. Masturbation can only get you so far. I'm not this girl, I wanted to fall in love and have it mean something, but now I can't wait, I don't want to wait and its literally driving me up the walls. What am I supposed to do with myself, do I just go find the nearest guy and jump into bed with him? I don't want to feel like this anymore. Please.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Virginity?
Adult to young adult, a one night stand isn't necessarily going to be as satisfying as you think.
Here's the thing. You're 18. You go out and have sex with a guy. It sucks. You're unsatisfied, and now have no desire to do it again with him. Do you do it again, finding a different guy? And again? Hoping to find one of the guys your age (probably an average of a 4/10 chance) who's decent in the sack and a considerate lover?
Straight up, part of a relationship is feeling out another person's personality. A guy who's considerate and thoughtful in every day life will be the same in bed with you. A guy who's not will be the same in bed with you. How do you find out?
Date em'
It's not about the right moment. Don't think about it that way. It's about finding a guy who's not a jerk who you will wake up next to wanting to sleep with again. It's about finding someone you can have sex with regularly within the confines of a relationship and figure out exactly what you like and how to enjoy it. And maybe teach each other a few things along the way.
Be patient. You don't have to date a guy for six months, but you want to find someone you like enough to date for a while. If you're not going to marry him, whatever. You're 18, I wouldn't expect someone expressing your degree of sex drive to marry the first guy she sleeps with. But at least find someone you like, who likes you, so that there can be more to the sex than just momentary lust when you want there to be.
Trust me, the sex will be all the better for it.
Also, first times are awkward. Always. A one-off is just going to make that worse, especially if you pick some drunk dude at a party who couldn't perform well and wouldn't give a shit sober.
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I went through that for a short time where all I wanted was to get some one night stands to make me feel better. But what I realized what I really needed was to be in a relationship. Don't get me wrong, part of it was fun and some of the sex was great but it was all empty love. I'm not going to talk you out of hooking up but if you do, try to get a close friend that you can trust and won't hurt you. Most guys don't mind being a booty call for a good friend. If you want to happy for a long time, try to get out there and find a boyfriend. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Well you seem to be ready, so I'll skip the 'make sure you're ready, you can only lose your virginity once' speech. I wouldn't necessarily go to the nearest guy and jump into bed with him because then word will get around that you're 'easy'. And I'm assuming you don't want that. If you feel like you're ready for sex, then start looking for a guy to be in a relationship with. Someone you will trust, and who you know will treat you right (in every aspect of the relationship, not just sex). Sex is 100000 times better when you're doing it with somebody that you love and trust. Random hookups are usually sleezebags that just wanted to 'get some' and will probably go tell the whole world about your little sexcapade. Again, I'm assuming you don't want that. So goodluck, Jess.
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There are probably so many people out there who are thinking exactly that, I even thought it but like just because your sex drive is extremely high right now doesnt mean you have to jump into any guys bed. Go on the dating scene find a guy who you have stuff in common with and start from there then when it comes to that sex part and obviously you feel ready then just go for it. Start dating first because just going with any guy wont feel good especially as it would be your first time. No ones saying wait years until you fall in love with someone to have sex with them but at least like the person on some kind of personal level, thats why people have boyfriends, so i'm sure if you just start from there you'll seen satisfy your need :) Hope this helps!!xx
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