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standing up to her
19/f so i have a friend and she has a brother named Kaitlyn. Now i've met kaitlyn like once or twice and hung out with her at my friend's house. and she is really rude. i mean she'll insult you and this girl is 22 and my friend is 18 and her brother is 16. they all go to church together. she insults my friend and her brother too. she as a boyfriend and he hangs out with us also. one day she commented on how skinny i was and said oh if you lived in California you would have to be in a car seat. and she says all this other crap i can't really remember. like i was going downstairs to say goodbye and she was like why are you following us blah blah blah. the last time we hung out she didn't say anything to me. i mean my friend will usually stand p to her for me. and she gets mad whenever i talk to her boyfriend and says stop talking to him and then once when she aid that to me i told her how about you stop talking to me. and she gets mad and keeps telling me to stop talking to him. and after a while even when he says hi i just say hey orr i won't say anything because then she starts getting all mad. i mean she's bigger than me and she's insecure obviously, and i ask her why she does it and she says because it's funny. i mean i've tried to ignore her but it doesn't work. so how should i stand up to her and just shut her up because she gets on my damn nerves? don't say ignore her because that doesn't really work. i want to stand up to her because when i was bullied in middle and high school i wasn't able to stand up to the bullies. i know it sounds silly at my age which is almost 20, to be fighting with someone, and to just ignore her, but i could never do it. when i did ignore her i was still mad i let her talk to me that way. so how should i stand up to her? thanks
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If you're going to stand up to her, don't sink down to her level. Don't insult her.
Something like
"I'm tired of you treating me this way. I did nothing to deserve this treatment and I don't understand why you do it but I will not tolerate this anymore. I'm comfortable with myself, where you are obviously not, and you need to take a long look in the mirror and decide if this is the person you really want to be."
... and if that doesn't work. bitch that ho out.
-LoveSucks
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Hello,
If you feel threatend or bullyed by her then you most defintly stand up to her, let her know shes not in controll of you, if hes gonna talk to you then he obviously doesnt care about what she says brush it off like he does. Never ignore it will leave unresolved issues in the end and it will be nothing but missery.Noone should have to deal with this, i also am kind of going through the same thing. And i voice my self i dont let others tell me what to do or judge me,Im me and thats ill ever be. So thats what you should do be your self.
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