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Long Distance Relationship
This long distance relationship is killing me. I have found the person I love more than anything and he lives about 10 hours away. I'm 17 and I still have to finish out high school but sometimes I just feel so depressed and lonely here. What should I do?
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im in the same situation as you. im 17 so is he. He lives in usa and i live in canada. we live about 9 hours away frm eachother. our long distance realtionship has been going on for 11 months now, almost a year.
I love him to death and he loves me. we are so so much in love it hurts being away from eachother as it must be for you. Im just the same way...some days like today i cried cause i want to see him so bad and i feel lonely. but you just have to stay strong and talk about everything with him. your fears, concerns..anything. it will bring you closer. we talk everyday on skype for hours and that helps us alot. we talk about everything and everything and do alot of things on cam actually. You just have to be creative with it. we do eskimo kisses and little things like that, just things that we would do in person.
I think you should continue this relationship. If you love him, like really love him and would do anything for him to be in your life, keep it going. i know it is hard. its the hardest thing i have ever done in my life. But it will b so much worth it when you guys are able to be in eahothers arms.
We have planned for like 11 months now for him to come up here and see me in the summer. 11 months strong and 6 months left to go. Good luck. I say stay with him cause i know how much i am in love and im not giving up on him. I want to marry him and im saying this as being 17, cause thats wat "I" want. dont let anyone tear you guys apart or change your mind. If it was ment to happen it will happen. talk to him as much as possible. send gifts to eachother, letters, play games on the computer, watch a movie together on skype...its endless. good luck to the both of you. Hope this helped. if you want any more advice just ask me id love to help you out cause i know exsacly how you feel.
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try to go out more with your friends i know its very difficult to even distract yourself by doing other stuff trust me im in the same situation and i had a very very bad time when if i wasnt speaking to him or on school id be sleeping :S just to pass the time until i could speak to him again :S 10 hours away its NOTHING compared to 6 hours time difference ! and a whole ocean separating you from your boyfriend, i live in america and my boyfriend in the UK its sooo difficult to speak to him cause when i wake up he's already half a day ahead me ! its killing me !!! but do what im trying to do , like focus alot on school and this helped me pass the time really quick, its harder now cause im on christmas break ! i swear thats the only reason i wanna go back to uni just so i can take my mind a bit off him!!! its aweful, but just think about soon you'll be with him, thats a way that i could go for months without seeing him cause we had some problems and he couldnt come during that time so now its like wow we've been together for 11 months already and he's comming in about 4 weeks !! seems alooooot but i try to focus on other activities although it is veyr hard now on vacations but once you're in school i was studying alot doing homework and doing stuff in advance like starting homework early (trust me im no geek but i started doing SO good at uni and to be honest i was failing some subjects but this helped me cause it was either study and school work or go out with friends or think about him 24/7) it sucks !!! but just think that soon enough you'll be finishing high school, cause think about it and i dont know for you but for me 2010 passed soooo quickly cause i started involving myself in tons of activities(to take my mind off him ) i started going to the gym, studying more, doing homework, reconecting with old friends i didnt see that much anymore . my point is .....i know this situation sucks, but try to make the best out of it just like i did and try to do sometimes but on vacations its almost impossible to be honest too much time in my hands and nothing to do !! positive aspects , i started working out alot eventho i was kinda lazy now my body looks better than ever did hahaha, i did better than i ever in uni my grades were great, and i am very close to my friends and see them very very often like if i could id see them everyday just to take my mind off him , since i was really busy trust me 6 months went flying by! i know its hard but try to make the best out of it and then when you finally take a brake for your thousand activities you realise that time goes by quickly :)!!
if you need someone to talk just tell me trust me i totally understand you ive felt like crying sooo many times and i have cried because i miss him soo much :S .... also try to keep up with each others day thats very important , because by speaking to him like constant texting or just on the phone every day etcetera makes me feel not that sad anymore and actually happy that i will see him soon, if you want someone to talk to or anything you can message me :) trust me i know what you're going through but if you wanna stay with him enroll yourself in alot of activities to pass the time, but of course dont let this take ALL your time or else you'll never speak to your boyfriend hahaha try to excercise or learn something new you always wanted to learn, i even took salsa lessons ! hahahahaha just to pass the time ! but hey it helped since i had a very tight agenda suddenly it was like here we are 11 months later :P!
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You're only 17, too young for any long term relationship with the opposite sex; I don't advise you to give up your love and forget your lover because I can understand how a girl of your age feels and acts. Most probably your sweetheart is away on long distance for higher studies in some university or in some lucrative job; but both are important not only to him but also to you.So you have to bear the separation and divert your attention to studies. Your lover will be more pleased if you concentrate on studies than in pestering him day in and day out how you are suffering the separation. This kind of talk will give an impression in the mind of your lover that you're craving for sex and you'd likely to seek it elsewhere. Avoid such situation.
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