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can a miscarrage give you depression
i'm 21 f and a few weeks ago found out i was pregnant my bf and i were really excited (were planning to get married anyway) it was such a great feeling but my family wasn;t on board with the idea it was stressing me out witch my bf said to calm down since that wasn't good for the baby. well long story short two days ago i lost my baby. my bf and i are really upset i blame all the stress and i did take a tumble down the stairs as well. i feel so down and upset is it just gref of am i depressed? please help if its depression i would like to seek help
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Everyone deals with this sort of thing differently. Just with abortions, miscarriage can really damage your mentality. It can cause you more emotional pain than physical. It can leave you with scars and a broken heart. Obviously, it can put you into a deep depression.
You should seek counseling so that you can express your inner concerns, fears, and emotional trauma of the incident. There is nothing to be ashamed of. This happens. You aren't the only one that is having a hard time getting over something like this.
Pregnancy causes hormones to change pretty dramatically. Miscarriage causes them to change, again, very quickly. It can be such a roller coaster that you subconsciously fear it will happen again. It's a great deal of stress on the body. It can take a lot of vitamins and nutrients out of you that you body needs.
Emotionally you lost a baby. Losing a baby isn't easy, even if you never got the chance to meet the little one yet. When you find out you're expecting you get prepared. You start thinking of names, how their personality will be, and what color to paint the room. You don't think of losing them or death. It's what it is.
You may blame yourself for the miscarriage. It's common. Even if you don't realize it, you might do it. It can be hurtful to think you caused a death. I don't think anyone really takes that easily.
Pills, which will probably be prescribed for your perceived depression, aren't going to make everything all better if you aren't fixing the problem. Pills will only cover up the hurt. You need some therapy so that you can move past pills and be yourself again. Pills won't solve the problem. They never do and that's why people are on them for life. If you don't treat the real problem then all you will be doing is masking the hurt with synthetic drugs.
Talk to a doctor. Get some one-on-one help. Discuss how the miscarriage made you feel. Your thoughts on it. Your feelings. How things happened. How everyone reacted. What it was like. Anything and everything. They can help you sort through this. Therapy might not fix it in a day, week, month, or even a year. It's important that you stick with it, hang in there, and try your best to make changes.
I wish you well and hope that you never have to experience the loss again. You're not alone and if you need more people (other than a professional) to talk to about it there are plenty of online community for people who have miscarried and lost a baby during pregnancy. They might offer you a great deal of emotional support through your therapy sessions and can help you to maintain a positive attitude because therapy won't be easy either.
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A miscarriage can absolutely depress you, you should seek a therapist to talk to. It is grief, but that doesn't mean it can't also be depression. Grief you haven't dealt with can easily lead to depression. Grief counseling after a loss is not unusual, go talk to someone.
And I'm sorry for your loss.
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It's a form of grief you're experiencing. I'm sorry about your loss, by the way. But you'll bounce back. You've just got to find someone to talk to about it, let yourself cry, realize you didn't do anything wrong, and then finally get back into living and having fun again. It won't happen overnight, but it won't take forever either.
You should plan to become pregnant again, but next time, do it on your terms - when you and your boyfriend are in a more stable situation - maritally, emotionally and financially. That might be two, three, even four years from now. But that's okay! Don't rush having kids. A LOT of first babies are miscarriages; chances are you'll succeed next time, or the time after that.
Best of luck.
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It could still be grief but if you have been feeling like this for I would say a few weeks and not off on like if you feel like this most days and its been going on for more than a few weeks I would say go to a counselor and check if it is depression. I am not a counselor and I'm only 17 but I have been to two counselors because of my depression. I hope this helped some. Email me anytime @ roserenee16@yahoo.com
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